Miss Jubilee 2009

Miss Southeast New York!

2010-04-04T01:58:00.002-04:00

Miss Jubilee year = complete ---- Miss Southeast New York year = just beginning!

Follow this next (and last year) as I compete for Miss New York for one final chance to go to Miss America and represent my city, state, platform and friends!
www.misssoutheastny2010.blogspot.com

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Wow! What a weekend! Miss New York is going to be an incredible competition to watch and the class of 2010 local titleholders will be an exciting group to follow.

I gave up my title of Miss Jubilee 2 weeks ago and it was right back to it in preparation/organization for "pageant-palooza" as Keelie has appropriately named the weekend of March 26-27 during which 30+ girls competed for 6 local titles in Miss New York Class of 2010. As prepared and excited as I was, I was NERVOUS and feel very fortunate to have secured one of those spots.

Congratulations to the first round of titleholders:
Miss Greater Gotham Amanda Mason
Miss Metropolitan Hannah Wright
Miss Manhattan Jackie Holmes

You are all incredibly talented women and I look forward to this summer together. (It’s funny how intertwined the performance world is...Hannah is all the way from Utah, yet attends Juilliard and knows my friend Brett! That's one of the really fun things I have found about pageants though is the connections you find with all of the new people who you're constantly meeting.)

So yes, I competed in that one...and I did my best! The competition was solid and deserving girls will represent that local organization. My on-stage question was "Is winning the most important part of competing in a pageant?" I said no. “When I look back at the past three years of competing in pageants I see incredible growth. The preparation, especially for the interview process, challenges you to know what you believe and why you believe it. The sparkly headpiece is a great bonus though. :)” And even after "losing" I still do feel this way.

On to round two though, I knew I had to bring it!! This was my only and last chance to go to Miss New York. So I took a break, refreshed the makeup and hairspray, and it was go time. My crazy friends and fans were just as loud and I was more energized with a lot on the line. Swimsuit > talent > evening gown > on-stage question > final look...two hours later I looked at Cassie and Keelie just hoping that awards would be good news for all of us.

And they were. :) View the crowning moments HERE! [This may not work, just forewarning...]
Miss Congeniality Lynn Tryon (I almost wrote "duh." on my vote
1st RU Stacey Minchin
Miss Southeast New York Claire Buffie !!!
Miss Liberty Cassie Franklin
Miss Greater NYC Keelie Sheridan

!!!! I still can't believe it. !!! Congrats to all who competed in pageant-palooza (that even continued Sunday with Miss Brooklyn, Mallory Hagan)

Thank you to my mom JoJo for coming, altering, feeding, packing, errand running and loving. And my family who couldn't be there but encouraged me so much.

Thank you to the 26 people including the Miss Jubilee board members who came to watch round one and for all who stayed and continued to cheer (loudly), and also thanks to the many people sending text messages, Facebook posts, voicemails, emails, vibes, thoughts and prayers!!! I really do feel them all and they remind me of how fortunate I am to have your support system.

Thank you to the Miss New York Board, specifically Paul Brown, Kenny Mack and Linda Carbo, for executing a wonderful, fast and well-organized day! And to Ricardo, Rene and Leah for your dedication as well.

Meeting Monday to get things kicked off for this new adventure!

The end.

2010-03-20T02:19:00.005-04:00

My time as Miss Jubilee has come to a close and I have officially passed my title onto my successor(s). We expanded the Miss Jubilee Organization this year and that's going to bring great things! Miss Jubilee 2010 is Inga Schlingmann and Miss Southern NY 2010 is Faren Collins! And Miss Jubilee's OT is Alison Stroming! Congrats to all 3 of you and to all 20 girls who competed -- very deserving group!

From R to L: Teen 2nd RU Sarah Herzberg, Teen 1st RU Jordan Kowalski, Miss Jubilee's OT Alison Stroming -- Miss Southern NY Faren Collins, Miss Jubilee Inga Schlingmann -- Miss 1st RU Cassie Franklin, Miss 2nd RU Amanda Mason, Miss 3rd RU Catherine Cosmai

I did a really poor job of taking pics of the weekend because I was crazy busy doing loottss of other things -- sorry! The pageant was a fun and smooth day for the most part because the girls were wonderful, flexible and energetic. It was a great competition and I feel confident in the winners and that the runners up will have great futures, with Miss New York as a part of them.

Important THANK YOUs go out to:
- all judges, volunteers and audience members for tracking through the flooding, power outages, etc to get to the pageant and support the girls
- my mom for withstanding delays and craziness to support me
- Leigh-Taylor for emceeing with me and celebrating my year together
- Arnie and Ivette for producing a great pageant with lots of sponsors and success
- Walter and his team of Hewlett High School stage crew for a wonderful, top-notch production
- Eric and the HHS Concert Chorale for their beautiful singing and especially the guys for escorting the ladies in evening gown
- Nirvanna for being so flexible and reliable throughout the entire day, helping at each opportunity
- All of the contestants for a fantastic time, being flexible, on time and enthusiastic, a great competition, and wonderful memories to wrap up the year!

My Farewell Letter from the program:

What's Next?
I compete for the titles of Miss Manhattan/Metropolitan/Greater Gotham next weekend, March 27th in Manhattan!! One last shot!

LTS Changing LAWS!!

2010-03-20T02:16:00.001-04:00

THIS is what being Miss New York is all about!! Below you will find the latest blog from Leigh-Taylor Smith, Miss New York 2008. During her year, she proposed a bill to state legislature and 1+ year later, IT PASSES!!!

MARCH 19, 2010

I'm SO Excited.

And I can't even begin to hide it. Even though I have an interview in an hour and a half I just have to share the news.

The bill that I filed last year as Miss New York sponsored by Assemblyman Danny O'Donnell ... was PASSED!!! It. Is. A. LAW. (Well, on July 1st it is!)

Here's what the official bill states (if read aloud by me, it would have an exclamation at the end of each sentence):

"Section one of the bill adds a new section 815 to the Education Law. The new section establishes a school based service learning based, in large part, on the Maryland program set forth in COMAR (Code of Maryland Regulations) 13A.03.02.06, requiring students to participate in community service learning programs in order to graduate from high school.

Starting with the 9th grade class in the 2010-2011 school year, students are to complete one of two community service options in order to graduate from high school. The first option, set forth in new Education Law 815(1)(a) and 3(a) , is a 40 hour requirement that complies with guidelines to be issued by the NYS Education Department. The second option, set forth in new Education Law, 815(1)(b) and 3(b), is a locally designed program that has been approved by the NYS Commissioner of Education or the Commissioner's designee. The new requirements will first apply to students who graduate from high school in the spring of 2014."

People often asked me whats I wanted my legacy as Miss New York to be. This is it. A generation of compassionate New Yorkers introduced to service even if it doesn't happen or begin in the home. This will be an impetus to thousands of lives changed. And I'm so happy for my state.

I don't cry often as you know, but my eyes are filled with happy tears.

Have a wonderful Friday, y'all! And, have a glass of wine for me tonight!

PS: Please excuse the absurd amount of exclamation points. I'm on Cloud 9.

POSTED BY LEIGH-TAYLOR SMITH

Miss Jubilee/Southern NY/Jubilee's OT 2010

2010-03-11T12:15:00.004-05:00

The time has come! On Sunday, March 14, I will be giving up my title of Miss Jubilee and passing that opportunity down to 2 Miss Contestants and 1 Teen Contestant. Details on the Miss Jubilee Pageant on the flyer above. I hope to see you there! We have an amazing set of judges and contestants who will provide a competitive and entertaining afternoon! Good Luck, ladies!!

Respect for All Week

2010-03-11T11:01:00.004-05:00

Inside City Hall: Council Speaker Christine C. Quinn and Joel Klein discuss "Respect For All Week" from Kim Thai on Vimeo.

Last week, City Council Speaker Christine C. Quinn and Schools Chancellor Joel I. Klein announced that the Department of Education is launching its first-ever “Respect for All Week” in New York City. Respect for All Week is designed to focus each school’s attention on sustaining safe, supportive, and inclusive environments, providing an opportunity to highlight and build upon their existing efforts to combat bullying and harassment based on ethnicity, national origin, religion, gender, sexual orientation, disability, and other characteristics.

“Students should have the right to pursue, and we have an obligation to provide, an education without the fear and distraction of bullying,” UFT President Michael Mulgrew said. For some, home is not a safe place. School is and should be.

GLSEN (Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education Network) has been a huge partner in the launch of this week. “We believe that Respect for All Week is an opportunity for all of us to focus on very specific ways that we can build a culture and climate of respect in our schools,” said Mark Weiss, Education Director of Operation Respect. Now, if you've read my blog at all, those words probably sound familiar. That is exactly what we are trying to do with the Safe Schools Program of PFLAG NYC.

The response from schools reaching out to PFLAG NYC for speakers during this week was so overwhelming, we could not even accommodate all during this week (but don't worry, we'll catch up next week). I spoke at Bronx Community HS on Tuesday and will speak at the United Federation of Teachers Conference on Saturday. Tuesday, I had an experience much different than I had last year at the same school. This year was a classroom full of girls who already supported and embraced their gay and lesbian friends. My focus was to praise them, thank them, and encourage them to continue their vocal support. It seems as though they didn't even understand how radical they and their views are - that's a neat characteristic of this generation. I'm looking forward to sharing with the teachers because teachers and guidance counselors need to be armed with the correct tools and language to use in supporting their LGBT youth and the bullying that can be associated.

I'm proud of the City Council's incredible initiative in this 1-week dedication to "Respect for All." My hope is that the teachers and community members can help sustain these attitudes far beyond March 8-12, 2010.

Indiana Youth Group Art Auction

2010-03-05T09:14:00.001-05:00

I know some Indianapolis folks read my blog, so I wanted to share a great event with you.

My younger sister, Hannah, is an intern for Indiana Youth Group where my parents also serve on the committee/board (?). They are having a fundraiser and art auction next weekend!

IYG Art Auction

Saturday, March 13, 2010

7:00-10:00 p.m.

Wheeler Art Center in the historic Fountain Square

This year's event promises an evening packed with live entertainment, our favorite artists, autioneers and friends. * I have 5 pieces in this event (below), so please - go bid!

One day left of Early Bird Tickets: VIP for $40 and General Admission $15
Prices at the door are VIP $45 and General $20

The VIP social hour will start at 7:00 p.m. New features for our VIPs include a private auction, complimentary drinks, hors d'oeuvres and VIP surprises throughout the evening. All proceeds from the event go to support the programs and services of IYG.

indianayouthgroup.org

Light for Haiti - UPDATES

2010-02-26T15:26:00.001-05:00

Yay!! We are on/in:

Playbill.com
Broadway.com
Broadwayworld.com

This is great publicity, but PLEASE continue telling your friends!!!

PRESALE TICKETS $40 at http://canalroom.com/event_detail.php?id=236

GENERAL ADMISSION AT THE DOOR $50

VIP TICKETS (Open top-shelf bar, sit with performers) $150

* The bar is cash only....bring lots! :)

Light for Haiti

2010-02-23T09:09:00.006-05:00

I have your weekend plans ready for you. I've been working hard with friends from college, Terra and Marcie, to produce a benefit concert for Haitian Relief. We have had some amazing people jump on board, namely the cast of Broadway's RACE, singer/songwriter Scott Alan, my dear friends Leigh-Taylor Smith (Miss NY 2008) and Jen Corey (Miss DC 2009), and many of the rising stars and voices you'll see in Broadway soon, but we need YOU to finish our circle. So here goes:

In light of the recent disaster that has devastated Haiti, a group of New York artists are coming together to produce a benefit concert to fund medical relief. The music and voices of Broadway, the passion of spoken word and slam poetry, the rhythm of Indie rock, R&B and reggae will all come together in one night at The Canal Room in New York City. Sunday, February 28 at 8:00 pm, please join us in celebrating our gifts of song, word and laughter to benefit the Haitian people.

Purchase tickets at www.canalroom.com -- PRESALE DISCOUNT $40, At the door $50
Make donations by contacting me 646.469.7559 or emailing lightforhaiti@gmail.com
An for more information, a complete (and incredible) list of perfomers, and to see exactly where our money is going, the GHESKIO Medical Center, go to www.lightforhaiti.net

Celine Dion - Minis!

2010-02-16T12:33:00.003-05:00

So, this is not a traditional post in my blog...but you have got to see these dresses! Last Tuesday, the PFLAG Executive Director invited me to attend a private screening of CELINE: Through the Eyes of the World, a movie/documentary of Celine's Dion's tour. My roommate Matt and I went, not really knowing what to expect. It was great! - Private screening room at Sony Headquarters on the UES. The movie really humanized the "celebrity" of Celine Dion...she's a nutcase and has a beautiful relationship with her family. But really the point of this post is just fashion-oriented. LOOK AT THESE MINIS!!! Girlfriend looks amazing - hello 40+ with a bod like that, has amazing hair, and I wanted to wear basically EVERYTHING that she walked on stage in ... ok and off!

She had some fantastic long dresses as well. That's all.

Happy Valentine's Day!

2010-02-15T01:35:00.003-05:00

Celebrate LOVE in all forms.

Perfect love cannot be without equality.
- Scottish Proverb

The entire law is summed up in a single command, "Love your neighbor as yourself."
- Galatians 5:14 (NIV)

Love is the only sane and satisfactory answer to the problem of human existence.
- Eric Fromm

Love is an act of endless forgiveness, a tender look which becomes a habit.
- Peter Ustinov

and for some...
Forget love - I'd rather fall in chocolate!
- Sandra J. Dykes

Miss America 2010!!!

2010-02-01T22:57:00.008-05:00

Weeeee!!! Miss America time!! 3 am wake up call? Whyyyyy???? (ok enough punctuation.) Thursday morning, bright and early, The Trio (Megan, Ashley and I – the Trio that cheered Katie Stam all the way to Miss America together last year) headed out to Vegas for the Miss America pageant. I spent Thursday catching up with friends whom I haven’t seen forever, shopping around at the trade show, visiting my friends at Regalia and Red Carpet Pageant & Prom, and making our predictions for the competition. Thursday night brought an interesting night because I only got to see the girls in 1 phase of competition each, so I really didn’t have a good prediction for the pageant. I was very excited to watch this year though because I knew many contestants – from DC, NM, IA, MA, UT from National Sweetheart, IN, VA through LT, and of course SS prelim winner NY! (2 years in a row, baby!)

There are some things I learned about going to Miss America last year:
Tip 1: Stay at Planet Hollywood
Tip 2: Buy your tickets the day of – we saw in the front center section row Q and had better seats than those who preordered!

Friday was an exciting day! A bit more shopping, perhaps a purchase of an evening gown (!!!) and we were ready for Evening of Dreams. This was a great night – a bit long, to be honest, with a lot of talking with not so much audience attention…but the food was great! The contestants all looked amazing and it was fun to see them up close and personal. It was incredible when Katie began talking about her experiences this year with the US Military. She address the wives and children who were named honorary Miss Americas at EoD and thanked them for their sacrifice. Through her tears, she captivated an entire room of 800 people to the silence that you could hear a pin drop. The room had not been that quiet all night – that’s why she was Miss America. Ok so you’ve probably heard, but then came the best part of the night. Something we knew was going to happen, but just not at what point during the night. The engagement. Brian Irk deserves so much admiration and respect for the commitment he has made to Katie this past year. And vice versa. Their relationship is inspiring and beautiful. The proposal was perfectly planned and executed, and I feel so special to have been a witness to it! I know Katie was ready to pass on the crown, job and lifestyle, but now it is even that more exciting!! Infinite congratulations, Katie and Brian!

Tip 3: If you know someone is going to propose to Miss America in front of 800 people, buy the ticket for Evening of Dreams ☺

And it’s the big day!! Miss America 2010. First of all, we lucked into something this year, which leads me to another tip.

Tip 4: If you want to support your friend in Miss America, but can’t necessarily afford the $150 and have a few extra hours to wait, be a seat filler!

Ashley and her boyfriend Mike, Miss Lisa Smith and myself stood in line just an extra hour before the pageant before being escorted into a secret hallway backstage and into the theatre where we were directed to our front and center FREE seats to Miss America LIVE! We were just behind the screaming Outstanding Teen contestants who were full of energy and love for their state contestants. After an awesome introduction by Katie Stam from the rooftop of the Planet Hollywood, the 53 contestants performed a great opening number and introductions – New Jersey took the cake for best intro... “And no, I don’t know ‘the Situation!’ ” Alyse, Miss NY definitely stood out with her fantastic stage presence (and hair tosses!) in the opening number! Top 3 People’s Choice based on America’s votes, Top 11 from the judges and then SURPRISE! The remaining contestants had to vote 1 girl into the Top 15 of Miss America. This was a tough Top 15 because I felt that there were a few (5-6) girls in particular whom I thought would be definite Top 15ers…but there wasn’t really anyone whom I would have taken out of the Top 15! With so many prelim winners not making Top 15, I think this shows the wonderful quality of objectivity that the judges showed. They truly chose the best girl in each category, each night rather than succumbing to the pageant politics of throwing points to girls in all categories.

The cut to Top 12 lost Miss IN, Nicole Pollard, of whom I am soooo proud! She really lit up on stage and was a good example of truly living in the present and making the most of every moment on stage. Great swimsuits, beautiful evening gowns, but wow --- TALENT! You know how one big difference emphasized between Miss America and Miss USA is talent? Well this year they really proved it! Top 10 talent was just spectacular. Woman after woman graced the stage with flawless performances. A special shout out to Nicole Miner, Miss New Mexico, who has grown immensely in the past year. At Sweetheart so small and timid, and at Miss America soooo huge and expansive with her talent presentation, captivating all 7,000 people in the PH theatre. And Miss DC, Jen Corey – that was your moment, girl! You sang on national television and shared your beautiful voice and emotion with everyone. “Who makes Top 10 at Miss America? Who does that?” “YOU DO!”

Top 7 On Stage Questions were amazing, but in my opinion, this is where Caressa Cameron, Miss Virginia, won it all. Woooowwww. (Granted if you check my phone, I do have a log of text messages from the minute she introduced herself in the opening number to Lisa and Leigh-Taylor Smith saying “Hey VA, I think ya’ll may have a Miss America this year” Yet another extremely successful Miss Arlington…can I be Miss Arlington?) 4th RU Kentucky, Mallory Ervin (vocal), 3rd RU Louisianna, Katherine Putnam (piano), 2nd RU Tennessee, Stephanie Whittler (vocal), 1st RU California, Kristy Cavinder (ballet en pointe), Miss America 2010 Caressa Cameron (Virginia, vocal)!! Caressa is talented beyond belief, an incredible activist for her platform about AIDS in America, and from the couple hours we spent together at Miss DC this year, quite a spitfire and a real girl. Good choice, judges! Watch Caressa's first press conference HERE.

Congratulations to all on an amazing pageant. Thank you to all of the people who made this trip a blast! And I’d be crazy not to thank Katie Stam for her dedication to this year of service, one that has been incredible, selfless, inspiring and admirable with immeasurable success. To the future and your return to normalcy (non-existent), your wedding, and our friendship – cheers! You'll never be a “has-been” to me!

View all my photos here!

Miss America 2010!

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"Joy" of Life

2010-02-01T22:39:00.003-05:00

I sit down to write two completely different blogs: One of sadness, one of happiness, but both of celebration. The Miss America Organization lost an amazing woman this past week. Joy Robbins, the contagious personality that completes the duo of the incomparable Jim and Joy Robbins, passed away after an incredible battle with cancer. Jim and Joy have coached, mentored and prepared the past 3 consecutive Miss Americas in addition to 2 others. Their interview preparation is unique and thorough, but more importantly, their amazing support and the honest and loving bond they form with contestants is a beautiful thing.

I was so fortunate to work with Jim and Joy in preparation for Miss Indiana and for National Sweetheart as they simultaneously worked with Katie Stam in preparation for Miss America, which changed her life. I could not imagine missing this opportunity. Joy was selfless; she was beautiful and enthusiastic, and a little bit of a spitfire. ☺ She lived her name, “Joy” in the most perfect way. Throughout her battle with cancer, we all learned so much: to live in the moment and embrace the present whole-heartedly, to find what’s important in life and celebrate it daily, to smile and to mean it.

Of course Joy wanted more than anything to see Miss America this week, for the completion of Katie’s reign and to witness the outcome of their 8 contestants of this year’s class. They did pretty well – LA and KY in Top 5, DC in Top 10, IN in Top 15! We know that she was watching though with VIP seats, sending good vibes and prayers to everyone on that stage. Joy will be missed, but the way we are to celebrate her life is to share her compassion with others and to really pay it forward. She has touched so many young women's lives in addition to all of the other aspects of her life as a teacher, friend, wife, and coach and the world truly is a better place because of her.

Katie Stam, Megan Meadors and myself will be starting a scholarship in her memory called the "Joy of Life" Award, given to someone who embodies the characteristics of selflessness, love, spunk, and genuine joy with which Joy lived every day. Stay tuned for details and contact me if you would like to donate to the scholarship. cb.clairebuffie@gmail.com

Televise the Trial!

2010-01-05T21:50:00.002-05:00

The Prop 8 Trial begins on Monday, January 11. U.S. District Court Judge Vaughn Walker -- who will be overseeing a federal court challenge to Prop 8 starting this Monday (January 11) -- is considering whether or not to open the court room to TV cameras.

The court just announced that it is seeking public comment on the proposal to televise the trial -- and that all comments must be submitted to the court by a Friday deadline.

The interest in this case is unprecedented. And not surprisingly, supporters of Prop 8 -- who eliminated the right of same-sex couples to marry -- do NOT want the trial to be televised.

Opponents of Prop 8 -- led by attorneys David Boies and Ted Olson -- are seeking to televise the case in the interests of full transparency. They want this historic trial to be watched by as many Americans as possible. And, of course, we agree.

The Courage Campaign has made it easy again. CLICK HERE to submit your vote and encourage Judge Walker to allow this event to be televised. We all need to hear why.

Have a "Courageous Conversation."

2009-12-30T17:38:00.003-05:00

The Courage Campaign, Eric McCormack (Will & Grace) and Julia Louis-Dreyfus (Seinfield) have a special message for you. I love when they say, "This isn't about winning someone over, it's about having the conversation." It is exactly how I feel and how I approach this subject of marriage equality.

Have the conversation.

Happy Happy Holidays!!!

2009-12-28T16:20:00.003-05:00

To all who have celebrated holidays in the past month, I hope they were full of cheer, friendship, good food, rest and happiness! While I had planned to be in NYC for Christmas (with a roadtrip to one of my surrogate families' homes), Saturday brought a change of plans. Bad news was that I wasn't working extra through the holidays (which I kinda needed to do), but good news was the reason why. I am happy to share that I am a new team member of Apple as a Family Room Creative Specialist! But I don't start until mid-Jan/early-Feb, so I was able to be with my family for the holidays. Yipee!! I came home to construction on our house, knocking out a wall, and lots of painting and table/chair, bathroom fixture/sinks/tile shopping with my mom :) It was a great time. We will celebrate our Buffie version of Christmas later when my sister returns from the Peace Corps and her additional travels on January 15!!!! WOW 2 1/2 years without seeing someone!! Makes you even more thankful for your family around the holidays!

As we enter the new year, so many like to make resolutions of habits. Of course I have those, but this year I want to focus on living some of these quotes I've collected over the past few months...

"Today's preparation determines tomorrow's achievement." - Unknown
"Travel light, live light, spread the light, be the light." - Yogi Bedtime Tea (which is really good)
"What you say, you speak into existence."
"Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful committed citizens can change the world; indeed it's the only thing that ever has." - Margaret Mead
"Do what you feel in your heart to be right- for you'll be criticized anyway. You'll be damned if you do, and damned if you don't." -Eleanor Roosevelt
"Great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss events; small minds discuss people." -Eleanor Roosevelt
"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." -Eleanor Roosevelt

Peace in the Holidays and 2010 ~ Claire

Important Votes & Statements

2009-12-17T12:03:00.004-05:00

Both in DC and here in NY, there have been incredible steps taken and inclusive statements made for the LGBT community.

In the District of Columbia, Council passed the marriage equality bill by a vote of 11 to 2. (Take a hint, NY) This second successful vote now sends the bill to Mayor Fenty who has pledged to sign it. It is so important to have support of this bill in our nation's capitol, making a statement for the entire United States. Congratulations to all of the advocates who have worked tirelessly to bring us to this historic day.

And right here in NY, I couldn't attend because I was in a job interview, but Governor Patterson came to the LGBT community center in Manhattan yesterday where he delivered great news. He issued an executive order extending anti-discrimination policies to gender identity for state employees. This is a step towards the passage of GENDA (Gender Expression Non-Discrimination Act) which will protect private employees as well. It is interesting to compare the states that have established the same executive order - they aren't necessarily the states that have marriage equality. "New York joins eight other states in which an executive order, administrative order, or personnel regulation prohibits discrimination against public employees based on sexual orientation and gender identity: DE, IN, KS, KY, MD, MI, OH, and PA. In addition, twelve states and DC prohibit full employment discrimination on the basis of sexual orientation and gender identity: CA, CO, IL, IA, ME, MN, NJ, NM, OR, RI, VT, and WA." So that gives us a total of 20 states + DC in which you cannot be fired for being gay, simply put. But that's still less than half. And not acceptable.

OH. and. Dec 12, Houston, Texas elected its first openly gay mayor, Annise Parker. Annise will be in charge of the fourth largest city in America, and is the second woman elected Mayor in Houston's history. Many people in New York helped raise money for her campaign, and obviously those funds were needed to beat her opponent. Annise's campaign fought off very anti-gay attacks, and won with 53.6% of the vote.

Parker, 53, has never shied away from, nor made an issue of, her sexual orientation. She has been with her partner for 19 years and they have two adopted children. "I have always stood up for the fact that I am gay. It's part of the resume that I bring to the table, but it's just a piece of the package," she said. Congrats.

What's worse? AIDS or the NY Senate Vote?

2009-12-09T01:33:00.003-05:00

Yeah. That's a harsh question, isn't it? Well, I mean it.

Let's start with something a little, not happier, but more hopeful. World AIDS Day was last week (sorry I didn't post closer to it.) Leigh-Taylor, my roommate Matt and I went to City Hall just a 5 min walk from my apartment to read names of those who have lost their lives to AIDS. The book I read from, of three total, was maybe 1/3 of the way through the giant three-ring binder and it was already 10:00pm, many hours into the vigil. We were there among NYC Public Allies (my sister was a PA) and a few independent people just like us, people who wanted to honor and remember those who have lost the battle and stand with hope that someday, preferably in my lifetime, we will see the end to this devastating disease. And this is in the US. My sister, Sarah, just left Namibia, Africa after 2 1/2 years in the Peace Corps. You want to talk about AIDS? No one, myself included, can wrap their head around what an awful epidemic HIV is. But we can all hope and pray for a future without it.

The vote. Ok I did not post about the NY Senate vote on Marriage Equality immediately because I wanted to be appropriate. The energy and emotional disappointment I felt following the hours I spent glued to the computer watching the live stream would not have made a good combination with public blogs and social media. Why, NY, why? And a 24-38 vote? We put so much effort into the Republican and conservative vote - but we still have many Democrats voting against this civil right. The senators who proudly spoke during the stream were insightful and passionate. The people who voted against this act proposing deserved equality cowardly said "no" with no explanation. Some things I took away from the debate:

Why is marriage so important? (among the 1,324 rights that marriage grants)

Access to employer-provided health insurance for partners or adopted children
Ability to sponsor your partner for immigration
Denied rights to non-biological adoptive parents
Joint insurance for home auto and health insurance
Hospital visits and questions

Sen Diane Savino, 23rd Distrtict, brought up a brilliant, yet kind of disgusting point about our society. "Watch reality tv shows – they’re giving away husbands! 25 women can compete to win the heart of a 40 year-old man who hasn’t been able to hold a serious relationship or a man can choose between 25 beautiful women and love or $1,000,000."

Rather than asking yourself how can you vote yes? Ask yourself how could you vote no? As a senator who believes in our constitution, as a woman, as a Jew, as anyone who has experienced discrimination themselves or in their family/friends, how could you vote no?

Reflecting on his own recent wedding– the most important and moving day in his life – Sen Daniel Squadron of the 25th (my) district said he was empowered to speak up about the importance of this decision today to allow every person to equally and rightfully experience what he did on his wedding day. Think about your wedding - the one you had, maybe the second one you had, the one you want to have.

"History has shown that extending civil rights to all people has made our nation whole, held up the constitution of the US, and improved our society." - Jose Serrano, 28th District

So what's next? We have to keep going. In January, we could see this bill proposed once again. Thank your senators who said "yes." Remind them that they are voting in the right. Write your senators who said "no." Share a personal story with respect. When you get defeated about it, just think, "Iowa did it."

United Nations International School and a bonus

2009-12-02T11:17:00.003-05:00

Monday morning, upon my return from the holiday week, I did one of the best school presentations I've been a part of with PFLAG NYC Safe Schools Program. The United Nations International School is an incredible school of diverse students who are truly ahead of the game. Because of their rich blend of ethnicity, race and religion, they have a level of acceptance and celebration of differences that is admirable and inspiring.

On top of that, I was honored to be speaking with Kate Hathaway, a proud mother of 3 children: a writer, an actress, and a college student, one of whom is gay. We shared our stories of our family members who have come out and brought attention to the normalcy of my sister and her son - that coming out did not change WHO they are. We emphasized that this is not a choice and were able to expand on that when asked "Is there such a thing as a gay gene?" We discussed how different cultures dealt with homosexuality as the 9th grade students shared insight into their communities in the Middle East, Kuwait for example. We told about our emotions of pride and love, but also tears of sadness, never wanting to see someone you love struggle for the rights that PEOPLE should naturally have. We congratulated these students and their mentor Dennis Lacey for building their GSA program. On their website, the executive director, Stuart Walker, writes, "Additionally, the school seeks to prepare students for the leadership that this world so urgently needs." So I thanked these kids for being the leaders who embrace diversity and challenged them to continue that, outwardly accepting diversity in matters of sexual orientation and gender identity as well.

Even at the end, when Kate revealed that her son Michael, the writer, who was an assistant to a film star...Anne Hathaway, his sister---aha! get it? They were excited and anxious, but immediately got back into the discussion asking about the "gay gene." The amount of focus and respect that these kids had was just amazing. This was the best experience I have had speaking at a school and I definitely want to make a yearly habit of it.

The Hathaways have made a big impact with PFLAG, but especially other LGBT organizations, namely the Empire State Pride Agenda. In my Equality and Justice Day blog post, I explain meeting this family for the first time. They are true leaders in this fight who strongly stand up for marriage equality, especially in the state of New York. They are also a family who humanizes this fight and fame simultaneously. For this, they were honored at the Empire State Pride Agenda 2009 Dinner. Their incredible speeches are below. In Mr. Hathaway's speech you will also hear a bit of the story that I witnessed Kate tell at UNIS...a coming out story about pride and love.

Anne Hathaway

Gerald Hathaway

GUYS & DOLLS | Hewlett High School, Long Island

2009-11-29T23:10:00.003-05:00

For the past 2 ½ months, I’ve been doing something pretty amazing. I have been choreographing Guys & Dolls for G.W. Hewlett High School, under the direction of Walter Lastowski and Eric Williams. Walter was one of my judges in Miss Jubilee and after supporting me in Miss New York, he thought “Ah she didn’t win – she’s gonna need a job!” And the rest is history. These kids have worked so incredibly hard and it was inspiring and motivating to be a part of. 10 weeks ago, the boys were having a rough time with coffee grinders and cartwheels, and now they’re seamlessly jumping in each other’s places in absence and adding their own humor and flairs to the choreography.

After rehearsals and rehearsals, I sat in the audience on opening night and witnessed something so beautiful. To observe the parents in the lobby gushing over their kids and to see the pride on not only their faces, but the smile-streaked faces of the 80 kids in this production was just soooo neat. And their directors/teachers. I was in musicals in high school, so I get it. There is just something uniquely special about the relationship that is built between people in theatre. Walter and Eric give these kids a gift they love now, but may not completely understand until they are 23 and they return to Hewlett (or another high school) to watch a production, or even more, help choreograph or direct one. Hewlett HS and MS are so fortunate to have the blessing of these two teachers who genuinely love and care about every student who graces their stage, classroom, or office. And I’m so thankful to have been a part of the musical, yes, but more importantly, their lives. This was made possible by a relationship that formed from the Miss America Organization. You never know what you're going to get out of something. Expect the unexpected.

Stepping off the soap box and putting on my entrepreneurial cap… I wanted to give something else to the show and the kids besides dance, so I photographed their final dress rehearsal. Approximately 750 pictures later, fajitas cooked by Eric, and a moment of sleep-deprived slap-happiness with Walter, I present to you, Guys & Dolls, in photographs. HERE – we narrowed it to 500. Look closely -- you'll see Miss Jubilee's OT, Nirvanna, as well as some future Miss Jubilee & OT contestants!!

Taking a stand...by sitting down.

2009-11-19T21:13:00.001-05:00

As I stood for the Pledge of Allegiance before the overture of Guys & Dolls at Hewlett High School last night, I was reminded of the CNN story from Arkansas of the 10 year old boy who refused to stand and say the pledge at his school until there truly was “justice for all.” This boy is intelligent and courageous, and his father is proud. That’s such a cool part about it. Listen to what Will has to say.

Miss Staten Island

2009-11-17T13:00:00.003-05:00

After a long day at Dress Rehearsal for Hewlett High School's production of Guys and Dolls, it was off to Staten Island for the Miss Staten Island Pageant. As far as local pageants go in NY and beyond, this one is crazy! Yes, it was almost 5 hours long, however, it was so entertaining!! The Star Struck Dance Company brought much excitement to the show with their hard-hitting, fast-paced performances to open each act.

From the first 4 steps she took on stage, I leaned over to Sharon, Arnie's daughter, and said "There's your Miss Staten Island." A while later, the same girl, Jennifer Scacco was named Miss Staten Island 2010! Two teens were also awarded titles and every person on stage was awarded part of the $14,000 scholarships they gave out that night. Way to go SI!

It was great to see Kim Cantoni and the hundreds of people who can to support her -- congrats on your return to Miss New York 2010 as Miss Richmond County! Nirvanna and I also got to catch up with Kara Kolwaski, Miss New York's OT 2009, Ali Stroming, Miss Manhattan's OT, Alex Mazzucchelli, Miss NY OT 2008, and we met Miss Hawaii 2009, Raceen Woolford - beautiful!

Marriage vote to NY on Tuesday!

2009-11-07T11:31:00.002-05:00

Gov. Paterson has put the marriage bill on the State Senate’s agenda for next Tuesday, November 10. Now as many know, we've said this many times before - especially this summer before the Senate coup paralyzed change in Albany. It's the time for you to call your Senators and share your belief and your story. Ask them to say "YES" to marriage or thank them for supporting the LGBT community and equality. Click HERE to find your senator's information.

It only takes 2 minutes to call your senator, but if you need some motivation and have 9 minutes to spare, watch this video about all the progress and work that has been done by Empire State Pride Agenda this year.

Miss Jubilee 2010!!

2009-11-06T15:27:00.008-05:00

Hello there future contestants! Miss Jubilee 2010 details have arrived!

Miss Jubilee and Miss Jubilee's Outstanding Teen
March 14, 2010 at 2:00
George W Hewlett High School
Hewlett, NY (Long Island)
Contestants will arrive at 9:00 am for Interviews followed by a 2:00 pageant.

Miss Contestants (18-24 yrs old or senior in high school) and Teen Contestants (13-17 yrs old) who live, attend school or work in the Five Boroughs of New York, Long Island, Westchester County or Rockland County are eligible to compete.

Email Executive Director, Arnie Berkins for more information or download an application HERE. Please return your application to Arnie Berkins. And of course, feel free to email me with any questions: missjubilee2009@gmail.com We will once again have a Miss Jubilee Workshop in mid-February in Manhattan. Keep your eyes out for more details on that event.

Obama signed the Hate Crime Bill into LAW

2009-11-01T10:24:00.002-05:00

The Matthew Shepard & James Byrd, Jr. Hate Crimes Prevention Act has now been signed into law.

The FBI reported 7,600 hate crimes in the US in the past year. Over the past 10 years, 12,000 hate crimes were committed based on sexual orientation. These are only the reported crimes. The new law will provide inclusion for gender, disability and sexual orientation bias in hate crime legislation. "Because no one in America should ever be afraid to walk down the street holding the hand of the person they love." -Obama

"At root this isn't about our laws, this is about who we are as people. Whether we value one another. Whether we embrace our differences rather than using them as animus."

The government can change a law, but it's the people that have to change the climate. Sure, I'm thankful that this gives legislation tools for punishment after the fact, but it makes me sad that we even have to have such a law. And what about prevention? It is going to take the charge of people - people who recognize similarities that unite us, and celebrate the differences that make us unique - to change our society into one in which we don't even need such legislation. You cannot only talk with or to like-minded people. We haveto step beyond the comfort of agreement and speak to those who need a reminder of humanity and that we should value each person equally.

In case you do not know who Matthew Shepard is, let me share with you. Matthew Shepard was a student at the University of Wyoming who was tortured and murdered near Laramie, Wyoming in 1998. He was attacked by two men on the night of October 6–7, 1998 - robbed, pistol whipped, tortured, tied to a fence in a remote, rural area, and left to die. He was found 18 hours later, mistaken for a scarecrow and died on October 12 from severe head injuries. During the trial, witnesses stated that Shepard was targeted because he was gay.

PFLAG NYC Dinner

2009-10-23T23:31:00.002-04:00

On Monday, October 12, about 250 people gathered at the Tribeca Rooftop to celebrate the Safe Schools program of PFLAG NYC and support the growth of this amazing organization. Hannah was already in town and my parents were able to join us for the dinner, Monday. Everything looked beautiful and it was so exciting to walk into a space and event that the dinner committee, volunteers and I spent so much time and effort planning. The night was a success to say the least!

Beyond AMAZING food for dinner and dessert, we had intriguing speakers and honorees. Bishop Gene Robinson, an openly gay Episcopal bishop, spoke to the ideas of –isms and their negative effect on society – racism, sexism, and now heterosexism. A principal and teacher from a school in the Bronx spoke about the positive effect that the Safe Schools had on the climate of their school – the kids’ attitudes, tolerance, respect – and shared with us that they were having their first Gay-Straight Alliance meeting this week! Incredible!

Kate Shindle (Broadway actress/Miss America 1998) did an amazing job as the emcee for the night, so fantastic in fact, that in leading the live auction/live call for people to donate in increments of $1000, $500, $250, and $25 she brought us great success! In a room of 250 people who have already paid up to $350/ticket to come, 11 donated $1000, 24 donated $500 and someone matched that $12,000 total! By the end of the auction, everyone had donated at least $25. The night concluded with a benefit performance by Barbara Cook, Broadway legend who at 82 sounds as beautiful as she did when she won the Tony for Marian the Librarian in The Music Man years and years ago.

We by far had the coolest table – my parents Bill and JoEllen, sister Hannah, roommate Carlie, childhood friend Chad, great friends Leigh-Taylor, Paul and Keelie (Miss Brooklyn), and Susan from the Union Theological Seminary. Thank you to those who volunteered – Kaitlin and George, Seth and Goura. You all played an important part in this night and made it very special for me!

Peace. Love. Equality.

2009-10-22T09:32:00.007-04:00

“Peace. Love. Equality. That’s all we want.” This was Hannah’s caption on a Facebook photo from our weekend in DC at the Equality March. My little sister, Hannah, flew in a few days early for the PFLAG dinner (post coming soon) so that we could go together to be a part of history in our nation’s capital. For an early bus ride to DC from Chinatown, Hannah and I rolled out of bed to put on our tshirts that her boyfriend, Joel, made for us with the words “Peace Love Equality” on the front and “Let Us Dare” on the back. The day started out pretty fantastic when we casually met Kristen Chenoweth as we were walking towards the march – soo cool! I don’t know what the final turnout was for the march, but let me just say THOUSANDS. So many people gathered with signs, shirts, flags, and determined hearts and minds to make the same statement for equality – that means marriage equality, the repeal of Don’t Ask Don’t Tell, Defense of Marriage Act, Employment Non-Discrimination Act and more.

We walked past the White House where people were saying “Obama Obama, let mama marry mama!” And a woman in a dress walked by in a dress and bouquet of flowers with a sign that read “I caught the bouquet….now what?” She’s a lesbian who cannot marry her partner. We ended at the capitol building on the lawn for the rally that featured speakers who included politicians, activists, non-profit organizers, Lady Gaga, Julian Bond (Chairperson of NAACP), Dustin Lance Black (screenwriter for MILK), Judy Shepherd (Matthew Shepherd's mom), Cynthia Nixon (Sex and the City), and the cast of HAIR.

Julian Bond, Chairperson of the NAACP, compared this movement to that of civil rights in the 50s-60s. It was a gay man who organized the March on Washington years ago for civil rights, and Julian Bond said that now he is the black man organizing the march for gay rights because this too is an issue of CIVIL RIGHTS. "When others gain their rights, my rights are not diminished in any way."

I only posted one live video because this is the one you should watch. It takes a bit to load - but do something else and come back to it.

Lt. Dan Choi says that "LOVE is worth it."

Lady Gaga - by far the crowd favorite - speaks to our YOUNG generation that is making a difference and challenges Obama to listen.

All of the videos can be viewed HERE on the Equality March Blog as seen on CSPAN.

It was a powerful day full of celebration, happiness and sincere grassroots efforts to make a difference in the future of LGBT equality. At the end of the march stood a couple, a biracial couple, just standing peacefully with a sign that read “Years ago, we couldn’t get married. The time WILL come for you.” Powerful. We have come so far, but the rights of marriage need to be equal on the federal level, not just state by state. However, that doesn’t mean that we stop our efforts here in NY. NY is so close and the marriage equality vote is reappearing in the Senate next week. Call/write your senators and encourage them to make the right decision.

And of course always powerful, the cast of HAIR, who canceled their Sunday matinee to be a part of this day. "Let the Sunshine In"

zero time - listen to Obama.

2009-10-15T18:41:00.003-04:00

Ok - I fully admit - I have zero time to write a blog and I have so much to catch up on. SO I'm going to leave the control to you. Watch this:

President Obama's address at the Human Rights Campaign 2009 Dinner
October 11, 2009

Read and view more videos HERE. Lady Gaga, Judy & Dennis Shepherd (Matthew Shepherd's parents), the cast of GLEE, Gavin Creel....and more.

I'll be back soon with more...it's been quite a weekend!

CALL OUT!!!

2009-10-05T11:22:00.005-04:00

Hello blog readers (all 6 of you). :-) I just wanted to make a call out through yet another medium of social networking for 2 things:

VOLUNTEERS for the PFLAG NYC Annual Dinner & Fundraiser
Monday, October 12 at Tribeca Rooftop (2 Debrosses Street, NYC), 6pm-10pm

We need volunteers to work the silent auction, the VIP cocktail reception, greet people, etc. You get a free GOURMET meal!! (I've been on the tasting committee...wow, you're in for a treat - email me for a menu) There is a volunteer training meeting on Wednesday, October 7 6:30-8 at the PFLAG NYC Office at the GMHC Building 119 W. 24th St. (between 6th and 7th Avenues) 9th Floor Board Room. Please RSVP by contacting Kara at 646-403-3682 or via email ks@pflagnyc.org. Even if you cannot attend the meeting, but can volunteer for the dinner, we need you! Email Kara (or me).

IN-KIND DONATIONS for the PFLAG NYC Annual Dinner & Fundraiser
If you are a local business owner, or have any services you'd like to donate to the dinner auction, please contact me with details or Drew Tagliabue dt@pflagnyc.org

Silent and Live Auction Contributions
Past auctions have covered the range - from a week in a Tuscan villa to theatre tickets and dinner for two to goods and services of many local businesses. Donors will be recognized at the auction, in the dinner journal, in the PFLAG NYC Newsletter. If you are not able to make a donation in-kind, consider also making a tax-deductible gift to PFLAG NYC for the purpose of the auction and we'll do the shopping for you! All donations with a retail value about $500 will be entitled to a journal ad.

The big debate...

2009-10-02T22:55:00.002-04:00

Would this image ever really exist? Thankfully it does. But not often enough. There are a few things that traditionally don't go well together - oil and water, fingernails and a chalkboard, homosexuality and religion, to name a few. I've brought it up a few times in this blog, it's a part of a lot of conversations and every interview I've done in this organization, and yes, it's a hard one. But as a society, in the Christian community, we have made it a much harder discussion than it needs to be.

My parents sent me a sermon by Kevin Armstrong (KA), of North United Methodist Church in Indianapolis. He was our pastor when I was just a little one. This subject is too often danced around in sermons in the church, but he spoke to it directly and he put into words, the jumbled mess of opinions and beliefs in my head. Some points that spoke to me: (or you can just skip to the bottom and click on the link to listen)

In the book UnChristian by David Kinnaman, - What a new generation really thinks about Christianity and why it matters - a Barna Institute survey of 16-29 year-old young adults presented 20 words or phrases and asked people to choose the ones they associated with "Christianity" The results: #3 hypocritical, #2 judgmental, #1 (with >90% of the votes) anti-homosexuality.

People defending an anti-homosexual viewpoint so often reference Leviticus wherein the Bible states "If a man lies with a man as one lies with a woman, both of them have done what is detestable. They must be put to death; their blood will be upon them." Leviticus 20:13 YET, the same people who quote this verse are probably doing so while enjoying their shrimp cocktail appetizer - shellfish anyone? Rewind to Lev. 11.

"Why do we focus on one crime and dismiss the others? ... What does it mean to pick and choose scripture that punishes people who God would love?" KA

"When you read the Bible simplistically, you do it an injustice." KA

"The law [God's law] was meant to be guiding, not binding." The Apostle Paul

Kevin's Challenge to his congregation: If you believe that God's reference to loving ALL means people from ALL races, nations, and sexual orientation, are you willing to say it publicly, explicitly, plainly - and not just have people guess? Are you willing to say it BEFORE a homosexual enters your congregation, hoping to be accepted? Silence is disregard. Wear your acceptance on your sleeve with your words AND your actions.

You can listen to the sermon HERE (beginning with a scripture reading - you can even skip about 1/4" in and catch the beginning of the actual sermon). It's only about 15 minutes long - I cleaned my room while listening. Find some laundry to fold and press play.

Family Day, 2009

2009-09-29T11:16:00.002-04:00

President Obama declared September 28, 2009 Family Day in the United States. In his proclamation, he spoke with inclusive language that I really respect and appreciate. This is one key to making a difference and a climate of equality: inclusive vocabulary.

"Our family provides one of the strongest influences on our lives. American families from every walk of life have taught us time and again that children raised in loving, caring homes have the ability to reject negative behaviors and reach their highest potential. Whether children are raised by two parents, a single parent, grandparents, a same-sex couple, or a guardian, families encourage us to do our best and enable us to accomplish great things. Today, our children are confronting issues of drug and alcohol use with astonishing regularity. On Family Day, we honor the dedication of parents, commend the achievements of their children, and celebrate the contributions our Nation’s families have made to combat substance abuse among young people.

A strong and engaged family can make all the difference in helping young people make healthy decisions.

By coming together as a family and discussing the events of the day, parents can foster open communication, share joys and concerns, and help guide their children toward healthy decisionmaking."

Dialogue is the most important part of developing strong relationships, becoming strong in your core values and beliefs and working to affect change.

Equality Walk in DC - October 11th

2009-09-23T23:46:00.001-04:00

Broadway Impact, a grassroots organization created to rally the theater community to get involved in the fight for gay marriage, has made a lot of waves in the past few months. Now, they’re focused to getting as many people as possible to Washington, D.C. on October 11, 2009 for the National Equality March.

Want to go? Since this is the day before the PFLAG NYC Annual Dinner and my sister will be in town to play, I'm not 100% about whether I'm going or not. If you're interested in going, please contact me.

"Equality now."

Something to think about...

2009-09-23T12:19:00.003-04:00

I don't like [or read] email chains or forwards. But since I opened this one from my dad of all people, I decided to give it a chance.

Lessons to make you think about the way we treat people.

Cleaning Lady.

During my second month of college, our professor gave us a pop quiz.. I was a conscientious student and had breezed through the questions until I read the last one:

'What is the first name of the woman who cleans the school?'

Surely this was some kind of joke. I had seen the cleaning woman several times.. She was tall, dark-haired and in her 50's, but how would I know her name?

I handed in my paper, leaving the last question blank.. Just before class ended, one student asked if the last ques tion would count toward our quiz grade.

'Absolutely,' said the professor.. 'In your careers you will meet many people. All are significant. They deserve your attention and care, even if all you do is smile and say 'hello.'

I've never forgotten that lesson. I also learned her name was Dorothy.

Pickup in the Rain

One night, at 11:3 0 p.m., an older African American woman was standing on the side of an Alabama highway trying to endure a lashing rainstorm. Her car had broken down and she desperately needed a ride.

Soaking wet, she decided to flag down the next car. A young white man stopped to help her, generally unheard of in those conflict-filled 60s.. The man took her to safety, helped her get assistance and put her into a taxicab.

She seemed to be in a big hurry, but wrote down his address and thanked him. Seven days went by and a knock came on the man's door. To his surprise, a giant console color TV was delivered to his home. A special note was attached..

It read:

'Thank you so much for assisting me on the highway the o ther night. The rain drenched not only my clothes, but also my spirits. Then you came along. Because of you, I was able to make it to my dying husband's bedside just before he passed away.... God bless you for helping me and unselfishly serving others.'

Sincerely, Mrs. Nat King Cole.

Always remember those who serve. (my favorite)

In the days when an ice cream sundae cost much less, a 10-year-old boy entered a hotel coffee shop and sat at a table. A waitress put a glass of water in front of him.

'How much is an ice cream sundae?' he asked..

'Fifty cents,' replied the waitress.

The little boy pulled is hand out of his pocket and studied the coins in it.

'Well, how much is a plain dish of ice cream?' he inquired.

By now more people were waiting for a table and the waitress was growing impatient.

'Thirty-five cents,' she brusquely replied.

'I'll have the plain ice cream,' he said.

The waitress brought the ice cream, put the bill on the table and walked away. The boy finished the ice cream, paid the cashier and left. When the waitress came back, she began to cry as she wiped down the table. There, placed neatly beside the empty dish, were two nickels and five pennies...

You see, he couldn't have the sundae, because he had to have enough left to leave her a tip.

Giving When it Counts...

Many years ago, when I worked as a volunteer at a hospital, I got to know a little girl named Liz who was suffering from a rare & serious disease. Her only chance of recovery appeared to be a blood transfusion from her 5-year old brother, who had miraculously survived the same disease and had developed the antibodies needed to combat the illness. The doctor explained the situation to her little brother, and asked the little boy if he would be willing to give his blood to his sister.

I saw him hesitate for only a moment before taking a deep breath and saying, 'Yes I'll do it if it will save her.' As the transfusion progressed, he lay in bed next to his sister and smiled, as we all did,seeing the color returning to her cheek. Then his face grew pale and his smile faded.

He looked up at the doctor and asked with a trembling voice, 'Will I start to die right away?'.

Being young, the little boy had misunderstood the doctor; he thought he was going to have to give his sister ALL of his blood in order to save her but he had chosen to save her anyway.

Video Time!

2009-09-20T09:50:00.005-04:00

I've accumulated a few videos that I'd like to share ...

I was researching videos for an email I sent out a while ago and came across these couple videos from the Tony Awards Red Carpet this year hosted by Broadway Speaks Out. They were handing out Marriage Equality ribbons for people to attach to their sparkly dresses and expensive black suits. It's just neat to see Audra McDonald talk to her daughter who "remember[s] the conversation about marriage equality the other day" and Barbara Cook who is of a generation that doesn't traditionally accept homosexuality.

And watching people accept the ribbons and tell great personal stories.

And when Kate Shindle has more than a quick conversation, speaking out about gay rights, pageants, the combination (or clash) between the two and whether beauty justifies a voice.

Fashion Show!

2009-09-16T10:51:00.005-04:00

I have so much to update. For starters, the fun stuff...

I've done 2 fashion shows before, but they were small and not really "high fashion." So how cool to be in New York City, during Fashion week, and walk in a show? This was a show for the launch of the Michael Masoy Agency and Fashion Show Production Company. It was also a benefit for Keep a Child Alive, the AIDS organization. Keep a Child Alive does exactly what it says: it provides the medicine to children and families in Africa to keep them alive. It also helps to protect the 13 million orphans who exist because of the devastating epidemic that is AIDS in Africa.

We arrived at 11 am on the Upper Upper East Side to a man's house that used to be a church before he renovated it. It. was. beautiful. Well kids, I learned why models are so skinny. Common sense, you may think, they just don't eat. From 11:00 am until we left the place at 11:00 pm. No one ate. They just drank Red Bull. awesome. I packed almonds and raisins though - I'm JoJo's daughter. Hair and makeup - jazzy. 3 giant swirls on the top of my head (all my hair! well plus the white tracks), which started with the most awesome side/high pony, ever. I walked for 4 designers and in the 'fantasy' finale. Some wearable...some not so much - but all fun, nonetheless. Inga Schlingmann, Miss Manhattan, was the emcee and experienced fashion show model who first got me into this and then was giving me pointers and encouragement right and left :) Thanks lady!

The Sweetheart Post.

2009-09-05T09:32:00.003-04:00

First of all, GOOD LUCK to Inga Schlingmann , who is the current Miss New York at National Sweetheart! For those who don't understand how there are 2 Miss New Yorks, it's easy. Miss New York, Alyse Zwick, goes to Miss America. THEN, as a bonus, the first available runner up from the state - ie: Inga, 1st RU to MNY - goes to National Sweetheart where she competes against all (40 this year) of the other state runners up in order to have the experience of meeting girls from all over the country and competing at a national level (without the pressure of Miss America). Basically it is a week of incredible fun, laughter, insight and memories. I went last year and it was amazing.

Segue...last year at Sweetheart, I was so incredibly lucky to meet the people I did. It's just kind of fate that I was moving to New York and happened to be in the carpool consisting of Delaware, New Jersey and DC, right? I talk to these girls often and we are all big time members of each others' fan clubs :) Since Jen won Miss DC this year, I have created her website, blog, autograph cards, business cards etc and it is so fun to be able to support her in that way in her experience as Miss DC and perhaps Miss America!

And then there was Tennessee. Brooke Waddell. Not an east coaster, but one of the most fantastic people I've ever met...ok as you can tell by the entire post I wrote about her. She's the one I went to watch in Miss TN right before Miss NY this year. We both went through the preparation, dedication and disappointment of not winning our states and we were really there for each other through that process, good and bad. Even though Brooke has one more year of eligibility, she's chasing another title instead. Well, not chasing. Brooke's next title won't be Miss Tennessee; it will be Mrs. Pancratz. This chica is engaged, folks, and I'm "gonna be wearin' a bridesmaids' dress." Going to Miss TN was worth more than supporting Brooke, it gave me the opportunity to meet Mark - this amazing man who is head over heels in love with her and will be forever. and vice versa.

See the benefit of this organization? You meet some of your best and closest friends. I know I have, and I never expected to. I remember sitting at a breakfast my first year at a state pageant and a girl (probably teary-eyed) said, "I've met by best friends...my bridesmaids in my wedding through MAO," and I think I chuckled inside -- jeeez, it's a paaaageant. Even then I didn't get it. But you fast-forward a year+ from then and I'm standing up in a yellow bridesmaids dress for Kaleena (Dale) McCormick as she wed her husband Eli. And I was there with her just days before she gave birth to their new son, Carson this July. So I'll be there standing next to Brooke as she marries Mark, and I'm sure she won't be the last. (Am I Katherine Heigl in 27 Dresses?) I'm clearly no where near marriage, but I know that my bridesmaids will be quite comfortable in 4 inch heels...AND they'll have great makeup :)

Photo by Megelaine

More for sale...

2009-09-04T10:48:00.001-04:00

Here's an addition of a new state wardrobe -- Maryland.
Contact Heather at heathermolnar86@aol.com

Open publication

Sen. Ted Kennedy

2009-08-31T00:38:00.003-04:00

The team fighting for equal rights lost one of its co-captains this week in the passing of Sen. Ted Kennedy. Not only was he in the forefront of equal rights in general, but he was outspoken in his support of gay rights, justice and HIV/AIDS awareness. There has been a comparison of Kennedy to Obama, wondering if his legacy will live on through our current President. Obama has promised to not leave these issues untouched, but now, I hope that the death of such a strong fighter for equality challenges President Obama to bring issues like "Don't Ask, Don't Tell," The Matthew Shepherd Act and the Employment Non-Discrimination Act to the table and deal with them finally, positively and equally. Here are some excerpts that reveal Sen. Ted Kennedy's dedication and impact.

Kennedy was our 'greatest champion,' says gay activist
from CNNPolitics.com, August 27, 2009

"Thank you Sen. Kennedy, for making a future for us all that is more compassionate, more equitable, more just -- for LGBT people, for immigrants, for people of color, for those living in poverty, for every one of us. Your passion for justice and your fight burn on in us all." - Marc Solomon, marriage director of Equality California

Kennedy co-sponsored the 1990 Ryan White CARE Act, which passed the same year. Later in 1996, he co-sponsored a bill to reverse the discharge of HIV-positive members of the military.

Kennedy was a key sponsor of the 2009 Matthew Shepard Hate Crimes Prevention Act, named after young gay man who was killed. The bill was approved by the Senate in July.

If you're not as much of a reader, here is a VIDEO of Ted Kennedy's life to fill you in...

FOR SALE!!

2009-08-24T19:15:00.003-04:00

In pageantland, girls tend to spend a lot of money on their wardrobes, wear it once and hang it back in the closet. At National Sweetheart last year, there were some exchanges going on backstage. Think about it... girl #1 paid $x.xx for your dress in Alaska and girl #2 paid $x.xx in Pennsylvania. Why not trade or buy? No one will have seen it in your state yet!

So I have put together a little book for you to take a look at. Contact me or each of the girls to buy [or RENT] dresses! Happy shopping!

Open publication - Free publishing

Kirsten Haglund Foundation

2009-08-22T15:30:00.003-04:00

And if you are a Kirsten Haglund, Miss America 2008 fan, check out her Kirsten Haglund Foundation for Eating Disorders print and web design that I did! I didn't do her website, but I did do her blog, logo, letterhead, greeting/thank you cards, tshirts, hats, and now birthday and fundraiser invitations! View KHF design

A blog is a great way for titleholders to update their family, friends, sponsors and fans as to how their year is going. And after the crown is passed, it's a fantastic social networking tool :) I like to customize the blogs though rather than just the standard blogspot template. Follow Kirsten - misskhaglund.blogspot.com

Miss New York Photoshoot

2009-08-22T15:26:00.004-04:00

Rather than just posting the exact same blog here, I'm just going to direct you over to my PHOTO|DESIGN blog where you can see more from Leigh-Taylor's photoshoot. Yay! This was a grrreat day!

Go to Miss New York 2008 Photoshoot

PFLAG NYC Annual Dinner

2009-08-19T11:29:00.005-04:00

This has kind of become my baby. In addition to serving as a new board member of PFLAG NYC, I am also on the dinner committee, working on the planning, fundraising, decorating and designing the print materials for our annual dinner coming up in October. The dinner is especially unique this year for a few reasons. First and most importantly, the focus of this year's dinner is our Safe Schools Program that I have blogged about previously. Basically, we are trying to educate people that PFLAG is more than just a support group; we are being proactive in getting into schools and talking to kids about respect in order to put a stop to the homophobia. In addition, a special note for me is that Kate Shindle will be emceeing the evening. If you're reading my blog about Miss New York, or a pageant in general, you probably know who she is - Miss America 1998, Broadway Actress and strong advocate and ally. The dinner, October 12, will be a celebration and fundraiser to move Safe Schools forward. Tickets range from $200-$350 with an early bird special. So check it out now! ** Early Bird Special extended through Monday, August 24**

Visit www.pflagnyc.org/dinner to learn more about the evening and purchase tickets. Please email or contact me if you are interested in going and we can make arrangements.

Highlights include:
Honoree and Featured Speaker: Bishop Gene Robinson
Benefit Performance by Barbara Cook
Program Emcee: Broadway actress, activist and former Miss America, Kate Shindle

PageTurners - Here it is!

2009-08-15T12:27:00.002-04:00

Ok the video is up! In reference to the blog I wrote a few weeks ago, PageTurners, the video is now online. Nirvanna and my interview is about 9 minutes into the show. Enjoy!

From malvernepubliclibrary.blogspot.com

Miss Long Island USA

2009-08-10T17:55:00.007-04:00

This weekend, Keelie and I jumped on the LIRR to head out to Patchogue to cheer for Marina Montes (Miss Suffolk County 2009, MAO) as she competed for a preliminary to Miss New York USA. It was a different scene in that the USA system, as many know, is more truly a "beauty pageant." All contestants competed in swimsuit and evening gown, while only Top 5 did on-stage question. It was wam-bam quick, but I kind of missed the talent and getting to know the girls a bit more. Marina looked awesome. For those who know her from Miss New York (2009 2nd Runner Up), she wore her same wardrobe, but hair down, looking beautious!! In Top 5, on-stage question actually leveled the playing field quite a bit. Everyone did a really nice job. And then there were two. It was Row E vs Row D -- E behind us cheering for Jamie (who was a Kelsey Cartwright, Miss OK 08 dead-on look-alike & 4th RU to Miss NY USA 08) and us, Marina's mom and boyfriend Dan, Keelie and myself, of course cheering and waving our light up fake candles for Marina :) 1st Runner Up: Marina Montes! We were really proud of how well she did her first time in a new system. You never know what to expect! Congrats to Jamie, the new Miss Long Island USA and Good Luck to BOTH at Miss NY USA -- I think Marina will be back, regardless! :) Gotta say, I really enjoyed our Columbian dinner and drinks afterwards as well as time with my road-trip/train buddy, Keelie! Photos to come....

Page Turners & Buffie Summer Reading Club

2009-07-31T12:54:00.005-04:00

Despite the nasty rain, Nirvanna and I met up with Arnie at the Malverne Public Library to celebrate and encourage reading. We were guests on Page Turners which Nirvanna perfectly described as "The View" but with librarians! haha It was a really great appearance to explain the Miss America Organization to people there. So often, people just do not have a great understanding of this organization and what it does for young women. I think we were both great representatives of what Miss America stands for and what great things it can bring into our lives.

On Page Turners we were able to talk about reading and how it has shaped our lives as well as briefly share our favorite book. I've quoted my favorite many times in this blog, but I'm happy to bring it up again: The Last Lecture by Randy Pausch. And although this is a post about reading, here is the video link where you can see him delivering his lecture at Carnegie Mellon. It's incredible.

I also was able to step back into my childhood and remember the "Buffie Summer Reading Club" giggle. giggle. Yep, that's what we did for fun growing up, and it's how we earned fun prizes like 1 book = Dairy Queen, 5 books = having a friend over, 10 books = taking a friend to a movie or spending the night, etc. We were cool. But in all honesty, I spent a lot of time at the Southport Public Library or in our make-shift treehouse reading and I'm certain it shaped who I am today. I'll admit that I'm not actually a huge reader - I've become more of one on the subway in NY - but with that being said, I can't imagine how I would have been had I not read so much as a kid.

***
Small correction, Claire,
After reading one book--your prize was......another book:)
Peace,
Jojo
President and CEO
Buffie Summer Reading Club
***

Our episode of Page Turners will air on Long Island in the first week of August and will be webcast in the Page Turners archives soon thereafter.

Visit the Malverne Library HERE

Miss Duneland rules the world.

2009-07-28T09:43:00.004-04:00

Ok so that might be a little dramatic - but they sure are ruling pageant-world!! To explain, my first local title was Miss Duneland 2007. At that time, I didn't really understand the comradery and sisterhood that the Miss America Organization could provide for me. When I won Miss Duneland, I truly entered a family, and as my director said "Once a Duneland girl, always a Duneland girl." It rings true to this day. Well let me tell you about a few Duneland girls:

As Miss Duneland 2007, I crowned Katie Stam Miss Duneland 2008 - ring a bell, anyone? Yes, Katie went on to win the Preliminary Interview Award and Miss Indiana 2008, where I was her 2nd RU and fellow Interview and Swimsuit winner. Then on to Miss America where she won Preliminary Swimsuit and of course, won Miss America 2009!!

The same year, Lydia Daley was crowned Miss Duneland's Outstanding Teen 2008. Megan Thwaites, MDOT 2007 (my teen) won Miss Indiana's Outstanding Teen that year - 2008! Lydia was 2nd Runner Up.

In November (before Miss America), Katie crowned Nicole Pollard Miss Duneland 2009. After being 1st RU two years in a row, Nicole won Miss Indiana 2009 along with Preliminary Talent and Interview! Lydia, MDOT 08, won Miss Indiana's Outstanding Teen 2009! She was crowned once again by Megan Thwaites who crown her in her local a year ago (and is her best friend). [I did Lydia's headshots.]

This list goes on to celebrate the successes of Miss Duneland titleholders, both in Indiana and other states. As a sisterhood, we have now dominated Interview in 2 states, and have created quite a tradition of back to back Miss Indiana titleholders. Perhaps a Miss America back to back is on it's way? We'll see!!! Good Luck, Nicole and Lydia!!

Obviously the Miss Duneland Organization and my director Jan have made quite the impact on me because she laid the foundation for me in MAO. One way I give back to them is by continuing as the webmaster of the Miss Duneland website that I designed 3 years ago when it was my title.

Visit www.missduneland.com here!

Jen Corey is Miss DC!!!

2009-07-26T15:02:00.005-04:00

Soooo delayed, but things have been pretty busy lately! JEN IS MISS DC!!!! Almost a year ago, I met Jen Corey at Sweetheart when she was Miss D of C Sweetheart, 1st RU to Kate Marie Grinold (Miss DC 08-Top 10 at Miss America). Well, easily said, Jen is pretty much a rockstar...and so are her family members. After sharing mucho time together at Sweetheart, riding in the "BS Mobile" together along with NJ and DE, Jen and I became quick friends, far beyond pageant land. I wanted to go to work everyday just so that I could get on gchat and talk to her :) I spent Thanksgiving in Long Island with her family, we went to the Presidential Inauguration and Miss America together, and she was there supporting me in Albany at Miss New York. Great girl.

At Miss DC, I met up with Ashleigh Udalovas, Miss NJ Sweetheart '08 (1st RU '09) and then spent the evening with our former Miss NY, Leigh-Taylor Smith, and the new Miss VA, Caressa Cameron. The show was great -- 14 contestants, Kate Marie riding in on a motorcycle to dance the finale of Center Stage, lots of salsa dancing and leather. Pageant, right? haha Loved it. My Miss IN roommate from last year, Ashton Kunkle, placed 4th RU!! Jen won the CMN award for raising $10,000 in the past 3 years (WOW!!), Overall Swimsuit, Evening Gown and Talent!! This girl has a shot at Miss America Talent awards for sure - she captivated the audience and probably won before she even opened her mouth to sing because she looked so stunning and in character. (Opera - O Mio Babbino Caro) When they called her name, it was soooo exciting, it was like I had won something! hahaha Although I won't be going WITH her to Miss America, I am so excited to pour my energy and excitement into her as she prepares for this dream!

I'm actually currently designing her website, business cards, autograph cards, thank you notes. I'll post them soon! The cool part that's finished is her platform logo. Jen's grandfather started a trash company that is basically responsible for waste in NYC now. She has grown up with this and recycling, etc and changed her platform this year to reflect that and her support of the green movement. With a little pageant double entendre, she perfectly named her new platform "Let's Talk Trash." And here is the new logo. Fabulous, right? We have a photoshoot with garbage trucks set up for next weekend. I'm excited.

The aforementioned "Perspective" blog.

2009-07-13T18:49:00.006-04:00

A few weeks have gone by. I’ve read my blog over and over and discussed it with my mom, and we both feel a bit uneasy about something. When I write a blog, I write naturally with my realistic emotion. These are my personal views, and unless I’m reporting a news event or action regarding my platform for example, what I write is opinion – an opinion that I believe in, yes, but I’ll be the first to admit subjectivity. In my blog after Miss NY, I was honest about my disappointment that I did not walk away with that job and title. But as I have shared personally with the girls in the Top 5, I was incredibly proud to be standing there at the end with those 4 and do not want to take anything away from them because they are outstanding women, each very unique individuals, any of whom truly could have been Miss New York. And this extends to the remaining 16 women as well. I had a personal disappointment for falling short of MY goal, not a disappointment that anyone else won. [If that can even make sense…?] No matter what my intention, I cannot control perception, which requires sensitive semantics and thought. In writing a blog in the public forum of the Internet, I open myself to potential traps, and I think I fell. But here’s to it being a stumble and something from which I have picked myself up and moved on with sincere apology to anyone I may have offended.

I absolutely look forward to continuing my relationships and growing in the new ones with girls whom I have met in this program – whether that means roadtrips to state pageants, watching So You Think You Can Dance, eating guacamole, going to the lake, cheering each other on in local pageants, or Facebook chatting into weeeee hours of the night. Miss NY brought us together, but there is much more to the friendships that develop in this Organization, and I am so thankful to have found my NY family. When I moved to NY, I knew a few people from my internships of previous summers, a few from BSU, and one from pageantland who connected me with many new friends, but it was in February when I truly felt like I had begun that community development everyone needs in a new home. When I plan a trip to Indianapolis, I find myself saying “I’m going home,” but then when I’m there and talk about leaving, I once again say “I’m going home.” And I mean to New York. I have two homes now, and that just encourages me to reflect on allll of the positive support and love I have from all over in my endeavors, both in and out of pageants. I’m a lucky girl.
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Lastly, there is someone to whom I did not give enough credit, and she is Leigh-Taylor Smith. This girl is amazing. Miss New York represents a state in which she can truly be a change-maker, not a parade-waver. But, you have to have the guts to do it. We all know that NYC is a land of opportunity, but only to those who take advantage of it. It is so easy to hide or get lost in this city, and LT is someone who jumped at every opportunity and created so many for herself. She has set the standards incredibly high for the new Miss NY, not just based on her performance at Miss America, but because of the way in which she has empowered youth, supported this system and organization, and presented herself as a role model for people. People. Not just young girls as Miss America so often narrowly focuses. She has motivated and inspired me, my family, anyone who reads her blog, and most likely anyone with whom she has come in contact or conversation. New York State and the Miss NY and America Organizations are lucky to have had her this year because she has most definitely left a memorable mark. And the greatest thing is that although Miss NY is now in her past, the lifestyle of passion for volunteering and positive change will continue far beyond the time that the crown is passed. She is a true champion and this picture captures it perfectly. Thank you, LTS.

I love Dolly Parton.

2009-07-13T17:09:00.005-04:00

Just days before leaving for Miss New York, I flew to Jackson, TN to see my good friend and Sweetheart Sister Brooke Waddell, Miss Greene County compete for the title. She was the returning 1st RU and therefore under a lot of pressure with expectations. Expectations of others, yes, but expectations of herself. We all know our potential and our capability for this job, we just hope that others – 7 strangers – can see that too.

We went to the Miss TN lunch where they handed out the MAO and MTN awards. Brooke won the Miss America Community Service Award for her work with her platform “Reach to Buckle Up.” Her platform work is incredible as it stems from a personal story. As a former college basketball player, Brooke breaks the pageant stereotype and becomes more relatable when she speaks in schools. You should see how the kids in her presentations are drawn to her like magnets, hanging off of her every huggable limb. She has IT.

I was able to see Friday night prelims and Saturday finals. The show was incredible to watch – live television really structures the show and makes things fly! Brooke looked stunning in every aspect of competition in the Top 10. In each conversation leading up to the pageant, she said “I could not have run one more mile, watched another minute of CNN, sung my song one more time…I’m ready.” That’s the feeling you have to have. 100% prepared to leave it all on the stage and see if the judges are smellin’ what you’re cookin’. Let’s just say they were having appetizers and salads with Brooke and didn’t quite make it to the steak. She was 2nd RU to Miss Tennessee. No, not . - !!!! Stefanie Whittler is the new Miss TN.

“GOOOOO BROOOOKEEEE!!!!” This is what echoed in my ears for days following Miss Tennessee from sitting next to Brittany Waddell, the twin sis.

As hard as it was, Brooke was incredible. I admire this woman immensely for the way she dedicated sooo much to this program, yet she had the ability to at that moment let it go, seeing it in the perspective of her life. She had amazing family, boyfriend and friends there cheering her on and she knows she is loved. It may not have been the motivation I had envisioned, but watching Brooke lay it out there on stage with all of her heart was what lit yet another fire under my butt for Miss New York. I flew home on Sunday to head up to Albany Tuesday morning. I followed suit and left it all out there, and we know the story from there. You better bet Brooke Waddell was calling to check in, encourage me, and quickly to congratulate me and send hugs and love from her family immediately after Miss NY.

You’ve been a blessing in my life, Brooke, and we are living proof of what this Organization does for women, relationships and personal growth.

Miss NY 2009 - Final Review.

2009-07-05T13:16:00.014-04:00

I think at this point most of you know the news….3rd Runner Up…Claire Buffie, Jubilee!! ← bummer, not exactly what I was hoping for.

Flashback…hours before. (wooosh sound effect)

Sunday was the day. I felt nerves all day, but I don’t think it was nervous, I think it was excited. They were nerves about sustaining my performance and living up to my own high standards that I had set for myself. I feel as though I did. After the opening number and intros, we were immediately called into the Top 10 and I was called 5th. So exciting – I just stood up there and soaked it all in. Game on. Swimsuit, Talent, Evening Gown (which would not stick after a sweaty talent haha)

And then there were 5. Keelie, Marina, ME! yayy!, Alyse, Inga. Our scores were in and we just had the last impression of a Top 5 question, but it was ANYONE’S game even at that point.

My final questions were:

Regarding my platform: President Obama has publicly voiced his opinion against gay marriage. What can he do to repair his relationship with the LGBT community?
First it is important to educate people on Obama’s stance that he supports domestic partnership and civil unions and although does not endorse marriage equality on a federal level, he does support the freedom of the states to decide. As long as he continues to grant the states this individual freedom, and protect other gay rights under the law, he will be naturally repairing his relationship.

And my random question: What do you want to do before you die?
Travel. To every continent. Europe and Australia are checked off my list and Africa is the next one on the list to see my sister Sarah – who is watching now via live webcast! I want to travel everywhere and experience cultures from as much of the world as I can.

Change back into the gowns, hold hands with the girls and say a prayer, and take a really really deep breath. I’ll tell you what, Sweetheart sisters…you were all going through my head at this point. So many of them (now us) have won multiple prelims and felt amazing about what they brought to the stage, and have not won their state titles. The same thing then happened to me minutes later.

4th Runner Up…Keelie Sheridan, Brooklyn
3rd Runner Up…Claire Buffie, Jubilee
2nd Runner Up…Marina Montes, Suffolk County
1st Runner Up… Inga Schlingmann, Manhattan
Miss New York 2009 Alyse Zwick…Westchester County

Honestly, at this point, I was numb. But as people hugged me and I was able to see the people who came to support me in this quest, I let go and I realized that these friendships are worth more than any crown. Then I was announced as the Overall Interview Award Winner. To have worked so incredibly hard for something, and have been recognized in each area of competition, and then stand so far away from my goal, left me confused. Must I have been judged down in the final ballot (all scores are wiped out and judges just rank you) because they’re scared of my platform (??) If so, that saddens me. We obviously have a lot of work to do towards equality.

As I’ve said in emails to others, I was 180% proud of everything I did during the week on stage, in that interview room, and backstage. I was authentically ME throughout the entire competition and wouldn't change a thing. People say, "Everything happens for a reason." I'm looking for that reason, knowing it may not come for a while. I do believe in karma, and that all of the hard work I have put into this year will come back to me, just perhaps in a completely different form. Again, thank you all for your support and encouragement. I know I made myself and all of you proud by being true to who I am and what I stand for - equality, respect and justice - even if it cost me that sparkly head piece.

What I gained/maintained from Miss NY this year (thus far):

$2300 in Scholarship - going towards Continued Education classes at Parsons The New School for Design
$295 cash back from my program ad sales
$500 from my local = $3095 total in scholarships from Miss New York 2009.
Preliminary Swimsuit Award – validation for all the work I did at the gym with Chris
Preliminary Evening Gown – whew! A reward for THAT process, and major thanks owed to soooo many people
Overall Interview Award - I present an inarguable platform of respect.
Some true friends.
Tighter abs from laughing.
My integrity.

GOOD LUCK ALYSE IN YOUR PREPARATION FOR MISS AMERICA AND IN YOUR DAILY JOB OF REPRESENTING ALL OF US AS MISS NEW YORK 2009!!

I’m still a local titleholder – so keep reading…
☺ Claire
Be yourself.

Miss New York ... Update #2!

2009-06-28T08:28:00.012-04:00

Ok, where did we leave off? Friday? Think so.

Friday:

Talent tech rehearsals in the AM. These went well, 'nuf said. We took a tour of the Capitol Building today and it is gorgeous. I had already explored quite a bit of the capitol at Equality & Justice Day in Albany in April, but I had never actually been on the floor of the Senate or Assembly. These rooms are filled with hand carved wooden ceilings and stone and marble columns - just gorgeous. But hey, fear not, we didn't interrupt anything...there is still the big stalemate going on. Hopefully they get back to work ASAP because we have $2.7 billion on the line in the way of bills that we will lose by Tuesday if they are not in session. Here's a great photo from the million dollar steps.

Prelims. Opening number - snazzy of course. On-stage question followed. Mine was written by Leigh-Taylor Smith, Miss NY 2008 and read, "If your younger sister or brother came to you and told you they were having sex and wanted you to buy condoms, would you?" (Thought: Hannah is in the audience right now.) "Absolutely, yes I would. Teenagers are engaging in premarital sex at a younger and younger age and we cannot only be sending a message about abstinence anymore. We need to talk about condoms, birth control, etc in sex education in schools, but it starts at home. The duty of an older sibling is to be a role model and as that, I would take my sister to go buy condoms with her." whew. Immediate text to LT: Thanks, condoms. Jumped into Swimsuit (even on my off night) for the Swimsuit production number...yeah dancin' in a swimsuit to "Green Eyed Lady." And stretch. I danced my talent "Wonderful" and it was the greatest feeling!!! At one point, I got a little behind the music, but I didn't care at all because I was just holding my leg alllll the way up in the air, staring down a judge! hahaha Loved it and it was the best time I have performed it. At this point, all of our preliminary scores were in, and I could not be more proud of how I presented myself! That's the best feeling!!

Congratulations to Friday's Prelim Winners: Alpha Swimsuit, Alyse Zwick, Westchester County Omega Talent, Amanda Mason, Metropolitan Alpha Evening Gown, Danielle Rountree, Greater Gotham

Afterwards we went back to the hotel for our NVM|9 fitting and Eli Wedel arrived!!! Yayyyyyy best guy friend and I haven't seen him for a year :) amazing.

Meanwhile, my little nugget Lydia Daley was competing for Miss Indiana's Outstanding Teen -- and she won!! Yayyyyyyy!!! Congratulations!

Saturday:

First order of business, sleep in. Throw that hair in a rockin' ponytail and squeeze on my NVM|9 black wax skinny jeans and red heels for the NVM|9 fashion show. This was a blast. We did a show at Colonie Center Mall featuring our 21 contestants and Alexander Mazzuchelli, Miss NY Outstanding Teen 2008. She is a phenomenal singer!! Autograph signing then off to photos and the Cheesecake Factory <-- yummmm. And yes, we did all share a piece of cheesecake :)

Nap.

Miss New York's Outstanding Teen Pageant was a blast ~ Everyone did a fabulous job! A special congratulations to my teen, Nirvanna - she represented Team Jubilee very well!! These girls definitely lit a fire under our butts because they verged on putting us to shame in talent AND on stage question! The teen pageants are always amazing to watch because they are so talented. These girls have so much confidence and just really go out there and lay it on the line. One may not be the most technical dancer, but she was DANCING so hard!! It was motivating, I'll tell you what. However, someone WAS the most technical dancer. I have to give a shout out to Ali Stroming. She is an ABT dancer and would win talent at Miss New York & Miss America -- not MAOT, I'm talking about the big girls in Miss America. She was stunningly gorgeous in a contemporary pointe dance. I can't wait to photograph her in the city. Congratulations for a GREAT show to all of the girls, and especially to the new Miss New York's Outstanding Teen, Kara Jae Kowalski!!! I will say this, it was pretty awesome to see how all of us Miss girls cheered on the Teens - they deserved it.

We attended the Miss NY Ball following with great gift baskets - all the girls did such a fab job getting their baskets together -- thank you Michael Nash for your donation!!! We had a great night of dancing and fun with the teeny boppers :) Everyone looked fantastic!! (I was rockin a Brooke Waddell original and lovin' it :) )

my dad and me - he's doing his "pageant pose" :)

Miss New York....Update!!

2009-06-26T18:00:00.005-04:00

For those of you who haven't heard -- It's been a GRRREAT week!!

Tuesday:
Early AM I struggled to get my HEAVY bag down the 4 flights of stairs to then stuff into Marina's car. And we were off!

We arrived in Albany at the Crowne Plaza Hotel to meet my roomie Melanie, Miss Southeast New York. Straight off to rehearsals for hours and hours with Kent Parnham, who absolutely rivals Bridget Bobel for the hottest walk. :) "Temptation Eyes" is the opening number and it is a DANCE number. A few of us have a SERIOUS dance break ... in heels. It's great though. Mid-way through rehearsals we get the news that we will be eating at a 5 star restaurant, 677 Prime, and that there will be lots of media there. Awesome. 9 hours of rehearsal and sweat ... television. So we all ponytailed it up and through on cocktail dresses (mine courtesy of Tennessee legend Brooke Waddell) and went out for a trolly ride around Albany with Henry Hudson and then to dinner. I was in the paper! I'll have to find the link for it and post it here soon. Cute photo with 5 girls at dinner. Dinner was... amazing. Good thing it was the first night! Back to more rehearsals - luckily this day was in tennis shoes.

Wednesday:

Wednesday we did not leave The Egg theatre or our heels all day. Swimsuit walks & patterns, evening gown, opening number, parade of contestants, on stage question, talent run throughs, and wait for it....we started to learn our swimsuit production number dance. I got lucky -- I'm just in the walking group, not the dancing group. Get ready for that one. Anyway - hours upon hours of rehearsals and getting to know the girls better. I'm pretty sure I'll give Colleen Gagne, Miss Central Region, my favorite award. :) She's fantastic.

Thursday:

Interviews. Wait a second though - who knocked on my door while I'm in a towel and no makeup? The Insider for Entertainment Tonight. They are doing a "Behind the Scenes" spot on Miss New York. Art, our new PR director has done an amazing job of promoting the pageant in Albany and beyond. We talked to my sister Sarah in Africa on Skype, did my makeup - well eyeshadow and ONE eye in eyeliner...ummmm - and then I revealed my interview outfit, including the Judith Leiber belt I have on loan. Melanie and I had a funny little recap of our friendship, roommate proposal, and both of our desire for the title of Miss New York 2009. (She's a great roommate). So that left me 25 min pre-interview, in a towel. Hurry. I seem to do well under pressure though!! I had a great interview that was very personal and about ME. Not one current event question (oh well...thanks Marni for sending the questions) but instead the judges were very knowledgeable about each of us individually.

The dress. So one of my questions was about designing my own gown. I was able to tell the story of that process but also the test of flexibility that it has been. My dress arrived in a box in Albany at the hotel. And it did not fit. So, luckily, Sherri Hill's people were here from Red Carpet Pageant and Prom, and they saved my life. well, my dress' life. They altered away while I was in rehearsals (running gown with our swimsuit fabric stuck in my shorts to create a skirt to practice the stairs, etc). I get the gown and it fits!!! Two steps on stage....rrrrrip. Luckily we're still in rehearsals at this point, but I ripped a hole in the dress because it's way too long. So I have people to thank: Red Carpet for alterations, Melanie for her patience and walking with me to figure out where to pin my dress together so I wouldn't trip, Keelie for her sewing kit so that I could sew my dress together, Kristen for steaming my (and everyone's) dress. So after all of that, you could guess my utter shock when I won Evening Gown later that evening. (sorry to spoil that one...)

Prelims. Opening number was A BLAST!! So fun to get out there and dance and perform. I'm sure it looks amazing from stage in our blinding silver dresses! I did swimsuit and evening gown prelims tonight and felt great in both! I did come away as the Preliminary Swimsuit and Evening Gown winner in my group, while Talent went to vocalist Danielle Roundtree, Miss Greater Gotham. Sooooo exciting!!!! I need to divide my bouquet among those people I mentioned above for my gown award. And I think I'll give Chris, my trainer, a nice little flower when I get home :) Hard work pays off!!

It was wonderful to see my mom and sister afterwards!! yipeeeee!!!

OK - I realize I'm cutting this off...but I'ts 6:25 and I really need to go put some curlers in my hair and sit in the splits for a while. :) Talent Prelims tonight for me -- dancing my little feet off! And avoiding a Miss CA USA moment in On Stage Question...but you can still ask me about gay marriage...... snicker...snicker :)

HERE'S A LINK!! THEY JUST PUT PICTURES UP ON www.missnyorg.com !!

Sorry - uploading my pics takes too long :( <-- they're on facebook now!

MISS NEW YORK LIVE!!!

2009-06-24T23:34:00.000-04:00

Miss New York 2009 is going to be broadcast live on the internet!!

www.livestream.com/missnewyork

Thursday 8:00 pm EST Swimsuit and Evening Gown
Friday 8:00 pm EST On Stage Question and Talent

Sunday 2:30 pm EST FINALS!!! Top 10 and Miss New York revealed!!!

Yayyyy!!!

Updates to come ....

HAVING A BLAST!!!!

Love, Claire

And I'm off!

2009-06-23T00:26:00.004-04:00

Wow. Cannot believe it is here. I leave in 7 short hours for Miss New York. I'm incredibly excited, motivated, anxious, nervous, excited, excited and intrigued. Intrigued? Yes, I am. I'm extremely interested to see how this week pans out, what the climate is like, what the results will be, and what the future holds for all of us.

Thank you to all of you who have supported me in this journey thus far. It is faaarrr from over, regardless of who's head has a sparkly thing on it on Sunday. Thank you for your kind words of encouragement and motivation that will fuel the energy I need to get through this week. I am not only representing myself and the city of New York as well as our state, I am representing all of you. My family and friends: you have molded me into who I am today.
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To give you a glimpse of my schedule:

Tuesday
Arrive in Albany for Orientation then rehearsals until 10:00p

Wednesday
Rehearsals all day

Thursday
Interview in the afternoon
Dress rehearsal
Prelim Night #1 - Swimsuit & Evening Gown

Friday
Rehearsals, Capital Tour, CMN Hospital visit
Prelim Night #2 - On Stage Question & Talent

Saturday
NVM|9 Fashion Show & Autograph session
Family time!
Miss New York's Outstanding Teen Pageant & Gala

Sunday
Miss New York Finals! at 2:30p -- Send the good vibes & prayers!
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I'll have my computer with me so feel free to email or even better, skype me in the evenings when I'm back at the hotel (after 10p)! I'm going to make a very good effort to blog while I'm there - at least results, can't promise photos! So be checking in!

Let's do this. :) CLAIRE

Send-Off Success!

2009-06-20T16:10:00.003-04:00

I <3 rain. Nope. At 5:15 as I'm scrambling to get out the door with all of my wardrobe, raffle prizes, music, etc, it started pouring rain. Thanks to my mom grabbing a cab and saving the day, we arrived in plenty of time to get organized and set things up. First of all a HUGE thanks to Therapy. They put out the most beautiful spread of fruit, cheese, and hummus and have the best bartenders and servers you could ask for. Thank you manager Scott Ryan for helping everything run so smoothly, and owner Tom Johnson for working with us to make this a profitable and wonderful fundraiser!

We had a small group, but a great representation of all of the people who have been a part of this journey with me. Thanks to Arnie's family for their help taking tickets and donations, Bridget Bobel (Miss Indiana USA 2006) for hosting the evening, and all of those in attendance from the Miss Jubilee Organization, PFLAG, Ball State University, my UES crew, and IN folks!! I showed my wardrobe - well all of it that I possessed at the time and we gave out some fabulous raffle prizes including Personal Training sessions with my trainer, "British hunk" Chris Greenaway, a gift basket of Italian goodies, one of my dance photographs and a great dinner for 4 to Bar Italia on the Upper East Side.

I will take all of your energy and encouragement with me to Albany!! Thank you everyone for your words, smiles, hugs and advice! & love :)

PHOTOS FROM THE EVENING ...

PFLAG NYC + My mommy!

2009-06-17T13:02:00.001-04:00

Sunday, I was officially elected onto the Board of PFLAG NYC (Parents, Families & Friends of Lesbians and Gays). I was first asked, by Drew Tagliabue Executive Director, at the Immigration Equality Gala I blogged about a few weeks ago and I was really beside myself and quite honored. I feel that I have a lot to give to this board, bringing diversity with my youth and personal experience. Since our main focus is going to be the Safe Schools Program, I add a relatability factor to our presentation with the high school and middle school kids. It has been a major launching pad for my involvement in my platform and I'm super excited to give back through this new commitment. My 3-year term begins now!

So those are the facts; that was the day. Here is the cool part. I drive back from my lunch with Kirsten Haglund, can't find a parking spot, so I drive to the meeting at St. Bart's on 50th & Park Ave. I'm early so I walk to the front of the church and sit out on stairs in the sun, talking to my mom for 20 mins. She finally says "Hey it's 10 til, don't you think you should head on up?" So I do and agree to call her later. Elevator doors open and who's sitting there? JoJo. "whattt???" tears. In my favorite book, The Last Lecture, Randy Plausch writes, "I won the parent lottery." When I read this, I wrote it down in my journal because I. Did. Too. My parents just got back from a big hiking trip with lots of couples and both felt it was extremely important to have someone there to watch me get elected to MY board. My mom was on the school board for 8 years, and I remember the very first board meeting and the importance of our family in attendance. I'm so incredibly grateful and lucky to have the parents who will fly out to NY for the day to support me in the special moments in my life. My dad couldn't come because of work, but he was so happy that my mom could be there to represent both of them. When people at PFLAG met my mom, they got it. They understood me. Because I am who I am because of my family.

Call your family members and tell them you love them.

Miss Delaware Weekend

2009-06-17T01:02:00.002-04:00

For those of you who don't know, I competed in the National Sweetheart Pageant last summer, which is a "mock Miss America" for all of the state 1st or 2nd Runners Up. It is the best week....ever. Held in Hoopeston, IL literally in the middle of the cornfields, Sweetheart will forever be one of my favorite weeks, and the beginning of some new, wonderful friendships. Since I moved to NY the day after Sweetheart, it seemed to be just fate that I happened to be roommates with Miss Delaware, Julie Fuller, and carpoolers with Miss New Jersey, Ashleigh Udalovas, and Miss DC, Jen Corey. BTW I really mean....corn.

Saturday, Miss Delaware Finals, I made the trip out to support Julie. Miss Brooklyn, Keelie Sheridan, and I (so very very very thankfully) borrowed my friend Ilan's car (pretty sweet ride) and cruised over the Delaware Memorial Bridget to the Dover Downs Hotel & Casino. I have to give a shout out to Keelie for pretty rockin' conversation all the way there & back (well almost...) :-) The 2009 Pageant featured Galen Giaccone, Miss DE 2008, who shared her Miss America Prelim Talent winning piano piece along with other special performances. Another very special guest was our own Miss America, Katie Stam, looking S-T-U-N-N-I-N-G in a yellow one-shouldered dress. We definitely put up a fight for best cheering section for Julie, especially when she rocked it in swimsuit with a gold bengal :) Julie was named 4th Runner Up to the new Miss Delaware (and clearly fantastic interviewer) Heather Lehman. Congratulations!!

A big highlight for me was seeing Katie. So awesome to be able to hug her -- it's been since April -- and store up for my Miss NY week without her. The last state pageant I was in, unbeknownst to us at the time, I had Miss America by my side all along, and someone to pray with before the curtain dropped each night.

PHOTOS FROM MISS DELAWARE

As if time with one Miss America wasn't satisfying enough, I woke up Sunday morning to eat brunch with Kirsten Haglund, Miss America 2008 and her mother, Iora. They are two fantastic ladies and it was so great to finally meet in person. I am working with them to help develop the brand of The Kirsten Haglund Foundation with logos, t-shirts, stationery and more! If you haven't met a Miss America, I think the most important thing for you to realize, and keep in mind when meeting her, or when [perhaps subconsciously] judging her in the public eye: These girls are just regular girls....twenty-somethings who are someone's daughter, sister, college roommate, and friend...all special, nonetheless. WHAT A GREAT WEEKEND!! And it wasn't even close to over.... segue to the next post.

TODAY!!

2009-06-15T00:53:00.002-04:00

Click to enlarge invitation.

Gift prizes include: Italian Gift Basket, Armani Fragrances, Free Personal Training, Photography, Dinner for Four at Bar Italia

Drinks included: House Wine, Tap Beer, House Cosmo (1 free) - the rest are on Happy Hour pricing!

SEE YOU THERE!!

The vote is coming soon!

2009-06-09T13:23:00.003-04:00

The vote on Marriage Equality is coming to the NY Senate VERY soon. I just received this message from the Human Rights Campaign and I urge you to copy the link below and send a message to your Senator. If EVERYONE who reads my blog sends their letters to their Senators, I realize that I will only make a difference of about 7, however, every letter counts. If you're a Manhattan-ite, you can thank your Senators because they are in support of Marriage Equality (duh.). So please, send this on and in the mean time, cross every finger, toe, etc that is cross-able that New York joins the states that are just and equal.
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Hi,

I just read about the bill that would allow same-sex couples to marry in New York, and I thought I'd write you. This issue is really important to me, and I'm hoping you'll take a minute to ask your NY state senator to support the bill.

The state Senate is going to vote on it soon, and Governor Paterson has vowed to sign it. But a handful of senators are still sitting on the fence, and yours might be one of them. Even if your state senator supports marriage equality, it is important that they hear from constituents that they are doing the right thing – opponents of marriage equality are trying to convince them otherwise.

Will you tell your state senator to vote YES on marriage equality? Here's a link to an action page with a pre-written message – simply enter your name and address and click "send message," and an email goes to your state senator automatically:

http://www.hrcactioncenter.org/campaign/nysenatemarriage?source=200906_adv_ny_taf

If you want to make even more of a difference, you can call your state senator at 518-455-2800.

And be sure to send this to everyone else you know in New York.

Thank you so much for your support!

Sweetheart girls!

2009-06-07T10:13:00.003-04:00

Last summer, I competed at National Sweetheart (wow that REALLY makes me seem like a pageant girl.), which is considered a "mock Miss America" for all of the state 1st or 2nd Runners Up. As we get back into the state pageant season, many of us are competing again for our chance to all go to Miss America together!

So far one has made it!! (Thanks to updates from Keelie, Miss Brooklyn, who is there watching the pageant...)

Nicole Miner is your new Miss New Mexico!!! She was a prelim talent winner (Amazing singer - "Foolish Games") and prelim swimsuit winner. Above all, the nicest girl you'll meet.

Congratulations as well to:

Missouri: Kari Gai, Prelim Swimsuit and Overall Talent and 1st Runner Up
Alabama: Shelli Street, Prelim Talent and Interview (tie)
Nebraska: Devin Howell, Prelim Talent, Swimsuit, Evening Gown and 1st Runner Up
Kansas: Danielle Coffman, Top 10

Although I am very excited for each of these girls to have, I'm sure, done their absolute best, it's hard to watch! It just goes to show you how "different judges, different day" produce a different winner. No matter how many prelims you do or do not win, it comes down to the judges ballot. There is no guessing as to what the judges want, you just have to bring the best YOU forward and know that you have done all you can to represent yourself, your local title, your community, and your state. Now I have to take that to my state pageant and really live by my own advice.

breakthrough | mix it up

2009-06-04T22:53:00.003-04:00

breakthrough is an international human rights organization that uses education, popular culture, and media to promote values of equality, justice, and dignity.

"We collaborate with the entertainment industry, educational institutions, and civil society groups to build a public dialogue around concerns that include: HIV/AIDS and Sexuality; Women's Rights; Racial Justice and Immigrant Rights; Religious Tolerance and Peace; and Human Rights in the United States"

Congratulations, Claire. You have found your match. I mean, really? This description is my life! [Seriously, my dad wrote a book on embracing religious diversity and my mom signs every email with "peace"] I love when things like this happen. I secured Therapy Lounge for my send off party and at that time was invited by the owner, Tom Johnson, to attend this breakthrough event on Monday and cross-promote my fundraiser. I had no idea that a) I was an actual part of their program, speech and all, or b) that this organization so closely overlapped with exact words of my platform essay. I was so proud to stand before them, feeling 100% supported, and say "This event is called mix it up. That's exactly what I'm here to do. I'm here to break stereotypes, to be vocal about gay rights and my straight ally support, to educate so many people who are misinformed and as a result close-minded. I'm here to mix it up and break through as a new face in the Miss America Organization, representing this great state of NY."

Check them out www.breakthrough.tv

Miss Jubilee Send-Off Party & Fundraiser

2009-06-02T12:06:00.002-04:00

Click to enlarge invitation.

Trip to Florida!

2009-05-29T17:23:00.005-04:00

Flight delay in an airport? Bummer. Oh wait…. Perfect opportunity to catch you up on my blog and week of fantastic relaxation and preparation. I flew down to Florida to meet my mom for a couple day getaway and to be fitted for my evening gown. Upon arrival, we headed over to Regalia for the first fitting. [Aside: Driving didn’t go so well for us – by the end of the trip we just stopped counting the U-turns.] Let me just start with the stone-hard fact: David and Carry at Regalia are absolutely wonderful. Right off the bat, I was faced with my first test of flexibility (which is a 100% necessary attribute of a state titleholder). Thanks to their patience, creative input, and encouragement, it was easier to maintain a positive outlook and focus on solving problems efficiently. Jennifer, the seamstress at Regalia, will become my new hero on June 10th when my evening gown: attempt #2 arrives in New York. After returning to the store on Thursday for a fitting of the new prototype and round 2 of brainstorming and idea clarification, I am confident that I will walk on stage in 27 days in my dream evening gown! At the store, I met Stephanie Lozano, Miss Florida International University, who was also being fitted for her gown. Good Luck at Miss Florida, Stephanie!

In between my Regalia visits, I danced at James Dance Center, rehearsing my solo. JDC was the sister studio of my dance studio growing up, so this was a fun blast from the past! We sat poolside and ate watermelon, worked out in the mornings, watched movies and got massages and a facial. More importantly though, my mom and I caught up. We talked about my parents’ 3-week trip to Africa to visit my sister, Sarah; we talked about our family and relationships and the direction they are taking each of us in; we talked about my growth, the possibilities I have in my future, and how to best prepare for the unknown. It was a great getaway and much needed time for relaxation. I’ve got the best mom ever! PICS FROM THE TRIP

We stayed in a friend’s house in Kissimmee. They have a journal in which people write about their vacation, share great restaurants, etc. This is basically what I wrote:

Recipe for great pageant preparation:

1) Emotional Health: Relaxation poolside with Mama Bird (that’s what they call my mom), eating watermelon and gourmet salads
2) Swimsuit: AM walks, runs and workouts in the Florida humidity
3) Evening Gown: The perfect gown from Regalia….almost!
4) Talent: Dancing/Rehearsal at the nearby James Dance Center
5) Interview: Catching up on current events, reading articles and newspaper cutouts from JoJo
6) Interview/Sanity: Watching the Oscar-nominated films (& some blockbuster bummers)

All at the “Shellenswimmer’s!” Thanks for a perfect vacation!

Love, Claire Bear
“a hopeful Miss New York 2009”

You, too, can have this experience! The Shellenberger’s vacation home is fantastic and available for you to stay in when you go to Disney World, MAO Outstanding Teen or dress shopping at Regalia (for your pageant people), or just to get away! Here’s the short version – if you’d like more info, let me know! 3 bdrm, 2 bath: Queen, Full, 2 Twin (+ 4 couches) – Living room, den, full eat-in kitchen, dining room, laundry room, and a screened in pool with poolside amenities – in a neighborhood in Kissimmee great for walking/running – close to Disney, downtown Orlando, and more. Email me or Todd & Jamie at tshell14@aol.com PICS OF THE HOUSE

Immigration Equality Safe Haven Awards

2009-05-29T16:38:00.003-04:00

I learned a lot at this one. Drew Tagliabue, Executive Director of PFLAG NYC, and his [Australian] partner Mark invited me to the Immigration Equality Safe Haven Awards last Tuesday evening. This is important to know, as it is a common misconception surrounding gay rights: Gay rights are not ONLY about same-sex marriage. “Gay rights” refers to equality: in the workplace, schools, hospitals, and the law. Therefore, there are hundreds of independent organizations that represent a fight or cause within this umbrella term of “gay rights.”

Immigration Equality is a national organization fighting for equality under U.S. immigration law for lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and HIV-positive individuals. They bring together law firms and attorneys for pro-bono cases to grant immigration rights to LGBT people seeking asylum and same-sex bi-national couples since they cannot marry under federal law and therefore cannot affect citizenship. They also defend HIV-positive people who cannot legally enter our country and receive a visa for travel, work or living. Straight people can often times get around this law, but gay people have a harder time. There are rules and stipulations that stand in the way of equality (ie: The Immigration and Nationality Act). I have to draw attention to a poignant quote in Leigh-Taylor Smith’s blog from an experience at Jerry Nadler's Congressional Gala. Jerry Nadler said, "We are allowed to disagree, but not to deny." How can one defend the ability for a man to marry a woman just to gain citizenship (as this DOES happen), yet two people in a committed relationship, perhaps who even foster children together, cannot be united…in the United States of America, that place where people go to receive rights and freedoms?

I was able to meet the Mayor of Newark, Cory Booker (who was predicted to perhaps be the first black president...oops – how about the second?) and his assistant Barry, as well as a few lawyers whom I thanked for their time and dedication, along with Rachel Tiven, the Executive Director of IE. Everyone was supportive of my quest and my platform and excited to have another public straight ally on their side. It was wonderful to see so many lawyers, yes, some gay, but many straight, in their black power suits defending what is right and equal.

Mark Jones, Drew Tagliabue, Exec. Director of PFLAG NYC, myself, Rachel Tiven, Exec. Director of IE

Red carpet?

2009-05-25T00:39:00.004-04:00

I'm pretty much famous. haha. not. But it was fun to spend an evening with people who are! Tim Morehouse, Olympic Silver Medalist in Fencing, invited me to the premiere of Jessica Biel's new movie, "Easy Virtue." So in my birthday present (to myself) black skirt with pockets, we quickly walked the red carpet and enjoyed the 'subtle humor' in the movie. The after party was the fun part - Gramercy Park Hotel, dinner with Olivia from The City, had a few very attractive ... I mean... nice conversations :) with Ben Barnes, the lead actor from the movie, and briefly met Jessica Biel, and yes, JT. This was a great place to network though - I could end up with custom made earrings for my evening gown! Tim's fencing partner, Jason Rogers, met up with us as well as we met a few more fun people before the night came to a close. Tim told me a should celebrate my birthday every day of the week - well that was one way to kick it off!!

me, Ben Barnes, Tim Morehouse

Tim Morehouse, me, Jason Rogers

AIDS Walk & = Broadway Impact Marriage Equality Rally =

2009-05-23T09:56:00.004-04:00

What felt like 38 degrees, cloudy, windy, and spitting rain -- perfect weather for a 6.2 mile walk in NYC right? Well, we did it. Marina Montes, Miss Suffolk County, made the poor decision to wear shorts. But at least we walked! We were joined by my friends Carlie and Betsy from college, and although we missed her at the Apple store, Inga Schlingmann, Miss Manhattan, was also on the walk with her Americorps crew. The walk was....slow actually. We felt like a heard of cattle. But by a heard of cattle, I mean 45,000 people who came together to walk in honor of, memory of, and hope for people with HIV/AIDS. And in the midst of a recession, the 24th annual NYC AIDS Walk raised $5,603,409. (that's 5 million to clear up your "0" counting.) Pretty amazing.

Go home...warm up....nap a little....then off to...........

...the marriage equality rally in Times Square with my college/soon-to-be NY friends Carlie and Marcie. Now this was cool. The rally was organized by tons of organizations: Broadway Impact, Broadway Cares, Equity Fights AIDS, Human Rights Campaign, Empire State Pride Agenda, and more. Gavin Creel (<--marry me?) and the cast of HAIR put on an amazing show featuring "Aquarius" and "Let the Sunshine In."

Once again, we heard the support from Sen. Tom Duane, Assemblyman Danny O'Donnell, Governor Patterson, and this time also Mayor Bloomberg. Cynthia Nixon (Sex and the City) announced her engagement to her partner Christine Marinoni with Kristen Davis there in support of her. More people spoke and sang, and it was just great - such positive energy in the middle of the streets of NYC. It was a rally, so of course some people had signs, but this is the one that jumped out at me. It is beautiful. Thank you, Warren.

100,000. That's why we're in schools.

2009-05-18T19:00:00.003-04:00

Let's lay out some numbers for you. Hope you're not drinking water, because they may surprise you. The facts are that up to 10% of people are LGBT (Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender). There are 1,000,000 (one million.) kids in NYC public schools. This means that in our public schools, there are up to 100,000 kids who are in a range from unknowing to struggling to confidently displaying their sexual orientation, and it's not the orientation this world deems "normal." So 100,000 kids. That is why we, PFLAG NYC, are in schools.

We go to schools and share our personal stories in order to challenge and charge these kids to be respectful and aware. After attracting the attention with the celebrities of the Stay Close Campaign, we ask for a show of hands for how many know someone who is LGBT - the entire class raises their hands. We ask to leave them up if someone in your family is gay - we still have a handful, in fact about 1/3 of the class, traditionally. For the demographic we are reaching, this is an intriguing number when you consider the machismo tradition of Latino culture, specifically. For many of these students, their homes are not accepting of different sexual orientations, so school is their outlet for expression or confidence. School should be a place where people feel safe; yet this is not always the case for LGBT youth in NY public schools. This is why I challenge the students to speak with dignity and respect, removing words like "gay" and "retarded" from their common slang or jokes. This use of derogatory vocabulary and jokes is horrible and can be affecting more people than they realize.

In my family, we were able to accept my sister Sarah's sexual orientation and we didn't have to back-pedal to think "Oh no, did I say something or make a joke that offended her?" This is what I challenge these kids to do: Speak with dignity so that in the surprisingly likely event that one of their friends will later come out to them, they don't have to do the back-pedaling and apologizing that so many people must. This is what being a true ally is all about: creating an inclusive environment that is respectful and safe for everyone. The bottom line is respect. Regardless of your opinion, I think we can all agree that all people deserve that.

I don't have photos from these events, just my memories of interesting trips to the Bronx in my heels. But here are some websites that you can learn more about our program. If you have a school or organization you would for us to visit, please contact me at MissJubilee2009@gmail.com and we will be glad to set up a visit.

PFLAG NYC Safe Schools Program

Tips for Professionals Who Work with Gay Youth

Equality & Justice Day (it's a long one...)

2009-05-05T15:55:00.017-04:00

Tuesday, April 28 4:30 am....alarm...... not happy. But I'll tell you what, it was totally worth it! At about 5:15am, I headed out of my apartment in order jump on the UWS bus with the Human Rights Campaign and head right back to Albany [where I had just been for Workshop for Miss New York] for Equality & Justice Day 2009 where we lobbied, rallied, learned and spoke to legislature about Marriage Equality, Dignity for All Students and Gender Expression Non-Discrimination Act (GENDA) laws in the State of New York.

Upon arrival, I was thrown into my volunteer position at the information desk. Problem. I had no idea what was going on. I had never been to E&J day. But I smiled and pointed people in the best directions I knew! Governor Patterson welcomed the 2000 people in attendance (record number of pre-registrants) with this speech.

and proceeded to share and motivate ...

He spoke about our goals as a state. Yes, we want to change the law, but ultimately we must change the culture of NY society under the law. We must change how people treat each other. We need dignity and respect, and we need it now. Seriously awesome.

Senator Tom Duane, the first openly gay senator, has carried Marriage Equality, Dignity for All Students, and GENDA bills onto the senate floor. His motto throughout the day was IF. WHEN. NOW. "Marriage" is not IF, it's WHEN, and we demand it NOW. "Dignity." "GENDA." And to top it off, he joked (yet it's so true) about the fact that marriage equality would boost our economy!

Assemblyman Danny O'Donnell, sponsor of the Marriage Equality and Dignity bills in the Assembly, emphasized the separation of church and state. In confronting the issue that gay marriage invalidates "marriage," he talked about divorce. Heterosexuals are granted the ability to divorce multiple times, yet homosexuals aren't even given the chance to marry...once?

Assemblyman Richard Godfrey spoke of our inalienable rights as listed in the Constitution: life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness. Happiness. "This is about humanity."

After the opening ceremony, we broke off into individual caucus meetings, legislative meetings and a peaceful rally in front of the statehouse. I have to admit, I'm not really a rally kinda gal. But this was wonderful. There were signs promoting equality that were supported by people of different races, religions, AND sexual orientations. There was such a strong straight ally support, of which I was incredibly proud to be a part. The rally was hosted by Alan Cummings (Tony Award Winning Actor) and featured multiple speakers, one of whom I will highlight in an effort to make this post short of repulsively long. Kate Hathaway is a PFLAG mom. She has a 3 children, a son who is gay, and a daughter you may know, Anne. Here's a quick clip of the letter that Anne wrote and Kate read on her behalf.

After the rally, I walked in the bathroom on my way to the PFLAG caucus. Who's there? Kate. Of course (I'm Jo Ellen Buffie's daughter), I say thank you for sharing her story and we have a great conversation in line about Anne, PFLAG, my story, her story, etc. and then the time came: 2 stalls open. You must know: I hate stall-chatting. You know, when people continue conversations in public restrooms?. Well, I gave it up; I stall-chatted with Kate Hathaway. It is so wonderful when people who have a voice, a recognition, yet nothing to gain, speak up. She and her husband were incredibly down to earth. I look forward to seeing them at UES PFLAG meetings and hopefully the PFLAG Gala in the fall where we hope to have Anne as well.

New York is moving forward, and I am so excited to have been a real part of it. I can truly say that I have made a difference on Capitol Hill in New York State. Here's a look at a bit of the day.

"YES. The storm is coming. But you better bet that when it clears, there is going to be a big ol' rainbow!"

Miss NY Class of 2009

2009-05-05T09:51:00.004-04:00

Albany, here we come! Last week we had the kickoff weekend of Miss New York Orientation & Workshop in our new home of Albany, NY. I was finally able to meet all of the girls, and they are fantastic! It's going to be such a fun week at Miss NY this summer. After meetings at our hotel sponsor, the Crowne Plaza Albany where we will be staying in June, we headed just down the street to The Egg theatre. We worked with Kent Parham, our show choreographer, in walking classes as well as show rehearsals. Get ready -- Miss NY 2009: The Vision. It's going to be a good show! On Saturday evening, we joined Mayor Jennings of Albany at a reception as he welcomed us to his city. The NY Board of Directors, led by President Jill Williams, shared their excitement about this new relationship.

Sunday brought talent rehearsals in front of our reality panel including Kent, Kenny Mack (Show Producer), Kate Shindle (Broadway Actress/Miss America 1998) and the director of The Lion King, followed by more show choreography. (Reminds me...I might want to brush up on that!) We were fitted for our custom made swimsuits by Jodi Pelletier; they are smokin'. Kate Shindle spoke to us about interview and the importance of authenticity, something I respect more than anything. Leigh-Taylor took a minute to stress the fact that this is a job that we are all applying for. Miss NY is more than a crown and pretty dresses, it is honest, hard work. The preparation for Miss America has clearly changed her life. You have to be open and ready to receive and foster that change; I believe that I am.

HERE are a few more photos of the weekend.

Say cheese ... sassypants!

2009-05-02T00:46:00.006-04:00

Every contestant needs a great photo, right? Yes. Here's the thing... I'm usually the one providing the photo, but this time I had a new role. I recently had my headshots taken by the Miss Jubilee [and Miss NY] sponsor, Joseph Moran. Side note: It's very odd to make a first impression with absolutely no makeup on and your hair just dry and limp, no product or anything. Upon my arrival, we discussed my previous photos, what I was looking for in my new headshots, and a few photos of the beautiful Katie Stam from Four Points Magazine for ideas, all while he and Rosa, the make up artist, studied my facial structure. It was intriguing to watch another [much more accomplished] professional work. Going for that truly natural look, Rosa did my makeup so beautifully; I looked like I had absolutely flawless skin [and we all know that's not true]. Couple outfit changes, including my evening gown from last year, and we finished up after 5 hours of work. Here are a few of the favs from the shoot. Funny thing is, one of the first things I told Joseph was that I didn't like non-smiling photos because I always feel soooo lame in them and usually just look tired or sad. ha .... ha ... look what we ended up with :)

A big thank you to Joseph for donating his time and amazing skills as well as Rosa for making me look and feel so beautiful!

Joseph Moran - Photographer - josephmoran.com
Check it out! You'll even see Leigh-Taylor if you visit the Client Access page and wait a sec through the slideshow. Enjoy!

Rosa Domenica Fanelli - Makeup Artist - EMAIL

Miss CA USA. My take.

2009-04-25T00:53:00.003-04:00

Ok, by nature of my involvement in pageants, and additionally my platform, I have been receiving lots of emails, questions, etc. about the Miss California USA saga. So here are my thoughts -- and in the most raw way possible, copied from daily emails to my mom as I think more and more about the situation:
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JoJo, (yeah, that's what I call my mom, Jo Ellen)
I've been receiving lots of notes and comments about the Miss CA USA ordeal. I'm going to blog about it. I'm also going to write Miss CA about it. Although I think she poorly delivered her opinion, as did most of the contestants, at least she stated it. I would be hypocritical to slam her for stating an opinion because what I stress to people is the importance staying true to yourself and your opinions. I do NOT however respect the judge Perez Hilton calling her a "dumb b***h" for answering as she did.

There has been major press about the fact that the question should NEVER have been asked because it's too controversial. Katie talked about it on Fox & Friends yesterday and they asked her, "Would a question like that ever be allowed in Miss America?" I hope so! I don't think there was anything wrong with asking the question.....people have just as strong of feelings on this topic as the war or the bail out, and this is one of the top stories in every form of media.

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I am disappointed in a few things here. This was a step in the wrong direction for equality. I found this NY Times article, and I agree completely with the fact that this whole issue forced two steps backward and only one step forward (and not for a good reason.)

<-- public statement against marriage equality (obvi.)
<-- the gay backlash (led by Perez Hilton) of indecency doesn't reflect well on supporters! It's reverse discrimination!
--> put Miss USA back on the map, in the media....brought attention, that's for sure! And Katie was able to speak on the news to set the record straight of the difference between Miss USA and Miss America.

Highlights from the NY Times article:

All of us have a belief system, whether it is informed by our faith or a secular world view. The freedom to share those even unpopular positions is what makes this nation great.
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The crime here is not that people have opinions we disagree with. The crime is treating those who disagree with us with the same incivility that they treated us to.
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He also said Miss USA ought to be someone who represents all the people and views of America — and that personally opposing gay marriage disqualifies her on that measure. What Mr. Hilton doesn’t seem to grasp is that if she were in favor of gay marriage, her views still wouldn’t “represent all Americans.”
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Miss California’s answer to the political question asked of her by a judge was moving to the audience and the millions of new fans she now has for a simple reason: Her words were marked by genuineness, decency, a clear effort at civility, and great personal courage. The ugly response of her critics, especially Perez Hilton, is demeaning — but not to Carrie Prejean.
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So the bottom line is that no matter what your opinion, if you are able to present it with respect of opposing views, express it! The key is the respect (and appropriate grammar and public speaking skills will only help validate you). This whole ordeal presents an opportunity. It is a chance to open the discussion about gay rights, but also to break the stereotype of pageant girls who only want world peace and live perched on the fence in the middle, crown shining on her head. I'll soon post proof that the question IS asked in MAO and it can be embraced when presented with integrity.

But for now -- I need some sleep because.... MISS NY ORIENTATION IS TOMORROW!! yipeeee!!!

Go Gov Patterson!

2009-04-16T23:37:00.002-04:00

First of all a quick note, in reference to my past entry "Who's cool? Iowa, Vermont or North Dakota?" Vermont is climbing the coolness ladder! They passed gay marriage in Vermont and added VT to the list that Iowa also victoriously joined. Look's like our eyes are on Maine next! ... and New York! which leads me to....

He said it! New York Governor Paterson: “We want marriage equality in New York State” Today, Governor Paterson proposed marriage equality to NY legislature. He also said:

"This is a civil rights issue. For too long gay and lesbian New Yorkers, we have pretended that they have the same rights as their neighbors and their friends. For too long, we have allowed the perceptions that gay and lesbian New Yorkers have the same privileges as their own straight brothers and sisters or mothers and fathers; that is not the case. Too many cannot even make medical decisions. For too long many can’t even cover each other under insurance policies or health benefit plans….All have been the victims of what is a legal system that has systematically discriminated all of them."

HERE is the official announcement from the Human Rights Campaign. And for a more conversational explanation, visit the Back Story Blog.

Sponsors + a Teen!

2009-04-16T23:10:00.004-04:00

First of all, I apologize for the delay - life's a little crazy right now and I've been out of town celebrating my grandma's 80 great years with 26 family members! A few weekends ago I headed out for my double-dose of the LIRR – once to Hewlett and once to Cedarhurst. The first outing was Saturday to visit some of our sponsors. At Menekshe Boutique, I met Sharon and Judy and her adorable son! The dress store has been a great sponsor of Miss Jubilee for the past few years, offering gowns and cocktail dresses for the Miss NY week. I found a summer cocktail dress - coming June 2009! Judy also helped measure me for my custom evening gown and we awkwardly recreated the moment her in this photo :) After that we headed over to Elizabeth Drucker Skin Care Salon and Day Spa, who is our sponsor for make-up and hair consultation. I look forward to my consult soon - and perhaps a facial!

I headed back to the city for a fantastic night of fun with new Miss NY friends and then it was back out to LI in the morning. Sunday marks the day of the new addition to the Miss Jubilee family - Nirvanna Lildharrie, Miss Jubilee Outstanding Teen 2009! We had a small luncheon of family and friends at La Viola, also one of our sponsors, to crown and honor Nirvanna. She's full of energy and enthusiasm and will be a wonderful asset to not only the Miss Jubilee program, but also the Miss NY Organization! The Outstanding Teen program really is a fantastic addition to the Miss America Organization and I love the friendships that grow from the Miss/Teen interaction and involvement. It truly is an opportunity to be a role model and have a direct influence on someone's life. Congratulations, Nirvanna!

A FEW PHOTOS HERE

Who's cool? Iowa, Vermont or North Dakota?

2009-04-03T23:40:00.004-04:00

On a scale from zero to fantastic, Iowa gets the fantastic vote, Vermont gets an optimistic six and North Dakota takes the zero spot.

I could just say... "What SHE said. Iowa is baller. obvi." and you could click on Leigh-Taylor's blog (and then bookmark it as many have), but I'll fill you in too. Today was a milestone for gay marriage. The Iowa Supreme Court ruled in favor of marriage equality. This is huge, not only because there are now three states (Massachusetts, Connecticut and Iowa - with Cali in there briefly) that support same-sex marriage, but because this ruling brought the fairness and equality into the center of the United States - into the midwest, no longer leaving gay marriage as an issue on the coasts.

The official ruling states: Consequently, the language in Iowa Code section 595.2 limiting civil marriage to a man and a woman must be stricken from the statute, and the remaining statutory language must be interpreted and applied in a manner allowing gay and lesbian people full access to the institution of civil marriage.

Lambda Legal, based here in NYC, in addition to other political advocacy groups, was the foundation who created the active push that ended in a 7-0 unanimous vote to bring marriage equality to the Iowa Constitution. In addition to the link above to the Human Rights Campaign blog, HERE is the official release from the HRC national headquarters.

And to make it even more official, here's the text I received from my sister, Hannah: Iowa's supreme court ruled today that classifying marriage as being between one man and one woman was unconstitutional :o) I think it's pretty cool that this is the kind of stuff that my family texts about. I'm lucky.
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In other news, Vermont is super close to following in Iowa's [wonderful] footsteps. Nine years ago, Vermont became the first state to recognized same-sex benefits with civil unions. A bill is being presented for marriage equality that Governor Jim Douglas intends to veto. However, the House is then planning an override and they are basically 5 votes short of a successful override. Click HERE for more info and a link to contact the Vermont legislators.
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And how about a collective "boo." Today, the North Dakota House voted against the anti-discrimination bill - which, if that is confusing for you, could be interpreted as 'voted in favor of discrimination.' Senate Bill 2278, which sought to bar discrimination on the basis of sexual orientation and gender identity in matters of employment, public accommodations, housing, state and local government services, insurance and credit transactions. (I didn't write that... it was right HERE) Equality isn't lost or considered a failure in ND, we are just hitting some stumbling blocks. Pull it together ND. I hope that the progress in Iowa and Vermont will continue to motivate those who are fighting for equality in North Dakota.

ASK Yourself | EMBRACE Love | AFFECT Change

2009-03-30T11:44:00.007-04:00

I went to a Human Rights Campaign event on Tuesday called "Talking Queer Politics" where openly-gay republican John Chromczak (who ran for NY Senator) shared the importance of calling our senators and representatives to encourage them to vote for the passage of upcoming bills being proposed through legislature to legalize and equalize gay marriage in the state of New York. He challenged us to think "WHY?" Why do we support gay marriage? Share a personal story. I await the day when I can stand up to honor my siblings at their weddings: Sean and his wife...Sarah and her wife...Hannah and her husband - ALL equal, unique, deserved and fully recognized and legal.

On that note, I have a few things to share for inspiration. While I attempt to not overload you with media, I accept that I'll absolutely fail in this post. But it's worth it. Below are a few really, really important things for you to take a second to look at. I'll change it up as to which one plays automatically in the coming weeks just to bring importance to each. Otherwise, take your few minutes of free time (that we all have so much of these days) to take a a look at these videos, these peoples' lives, and your reaction to each, as your form your opinion and stance on gay marriage. I hope that I am providing you with stories that change or inspire you not only tolerate, but to embrace the beauty of love and its relevance to and inclusion of EVERYONE.

Kate Shindle speaks on Prop 8 at the "Join the Impact" Rally in NYC
I used to watch this daily, now weekly. It is a reminder for me to do what's right: To stand as a straight ally for what I believe in by being proactive for good, not reactive to bad. "I'm Catholic, I'm straight ... and I have never been more sure that there is a right side of this issue and a wrong side, and we are on the right side!" -KS This is the power that Miss America has the potential to have. I challenge you to take a confident stance on "the greatest civil rights battle our generation will experience" and I invite you to our side.

"Nothing More" sung by Scott Alan
This song talks about the need for and importance of family. Not riches or a house, but just a home with a husband and child. Gay and lesbian people aren't asking for anything special or additional ... just "nothing more" than I have naturally as a heterosexual.

Oscar-award winning movie "MILK" - Trailer
Staring Sean Penn, this movie is nothing short of powerful and life-changing, really. You should rent it, put it on your queue for NetFlix, or find a theatre where it is still playing, and bring a kleenex. Open your mind and your heart to change and take the challenge and responsibility of being the one who affects it.

And Dustin Lance Black's Oscar acceptance speech

Ellen DeGeneres and Portia De Rossi Wed
This is ceremony about love - Not flowers or dresses or how many chairs you can fill. Joshua Radin's "Today" is such a beautiful song and really epitomizes the feeling I hope to have on my wedding day. "Today is the day I make you mine...You are the one I've been waiting for." If love binds two people in the most honest and perfect fit, they deserve to love freely and equally.

Courage Campaign - "Fidelity"
"We, the undersigned, share President Barack Obama's view that for too long, issues of LGBT rights have been exploited by those seeking to divide us. It's time to move beyond polarization and live up to our founding promise of equality by treating all our citizens with dignity and respect. ... We know that, ultimately, love will prevail, no matter how hard they try to fight it."

You know Amanda Richie?

2009-03-30T10:11:00.012-04:00

NLGJA, the National Lesbian & Gay Journalists Association, held their 14th annual NY benefit dinner: Headlines & Headliners last Thursday. As the guest of one of my former MAO judges, Marni Lemons, I went to the gala with the affiliation of PFLAG. Marni represented Eli Lilly and Company, one of the first major corporations to offer domestic-partner benefits in Indiana. The event was hosted by Soledad O'Brien and CNN. Last year's event raised over $160,000 for the NLGJA programs and scholarships. The great silent auction featured the original clothing that Sean Penn wore in the filming of the Oscar-award winning movie "MILK" -- that was pretty cool to see! Also a fun note, of course it was a networking event and we were meeting lots of people. One of whom says to me,

Adam: So Daniel said you do pageants? One of my coworkers competed in a pageant here in NY about 2 weeks ago and got 1st Runner Up.

Claire - excited but confused: No way....I did a pageant 2 weeks ago and I won! Amanda? (thinking Mason...)

Adam: Amanda Richie.

Claire: Ohhh, Amanda Richie! She was 2nd RU in the NY Sweeper and I was able to give her flowers in the awards! Small world!! Shout out to the 2nd RU Club!!

JUST A FEW PHOTOS

VOTE for Miss America!!

2009-03-26T12:11:00.005-04:00

Miss America 2009 Katie Stam is currently a finalist amongst notable figures in the world today such as President Obama, Pope Benedict XVI, Katie Couric and Oprah for Time Magazine's annual 100 Most Influential People List. The annual list asks the public to rate each candidate on their influence on the world. Those recognized fall in one of five categories: Leaders & Revolutionaries, Builders & Titans, Artists & Entertainers, Scientists & Thinkers, and Heroes & Icons. Within each category, the 20 most influential people are selected, for a grand total of 100 each year.

CLICK HERE TO VOTE FOR KATIE!!

Ill give you a hint -- CLICK 10!! This is really exciting as Miss America strives to become more relevant and visible in the public eye and media. Katie's our chance!

Photographing Miss America for Indianapolis Monthly

2009-03-22T17:34:00.004-04:00

Margo Wininger, Art Director of Indianapolis Monthly: "Would you be interested in photographing our 'Day in the Life of Miss America' story?"

Me: "YES!"

I had already planned on returning to Indianapolis for the Miss America Homecoming celebration in honor of Katie Stam, once Miss Indiana, no Miss America 2009! And then I get this opportunity! [Thanks to Bridget Bobel, Michael Nash and Editor David Zivan] I arrived at the Statehouse around 1:00 to meet the writer, Daniel Comiskey, and photograph the "behind the scenes" moments of Katie meeting members of the House and Senate from the entire state, following her lunch and workout with the Governor. One the Senate floor, she was presented with the Sagamore of the Wabash award, the highest distinction given by the Indiana Governor.

After leaving the Statehouse, we went to the University of Indianapolis where Katie was interviewed by the school radio, television station and an additional documentary. Not only was Katie home in Indianapolis, but she was home in the studio in which she had spent so much time during college, preparing herself for her career in broadcast journalism. After a quick meeting with her advisor about - oh that little thing called graduating - we went to a reception where she was given a standing ovation and wonderful words from Beverly Pitts, the University President, and her academic advisor. Katie was very touched by the reception and took that time at the podium to remind everyone that she is still just Katie, who yes, happens to be Miss America, but crown/pin/title/sash aside, she is just Katie. A long line awaited Katie to personally greet and congratulate her, ending with her Miss Indiana successor and fellow UIndy grad, Megan Meadors -- and a big hug from me :)

We don't yet know what will be published, so take a look HERE.

:) CLAIRE

P.S. It's not REALLY a cover story ... but we can wish, can't we?

Miss America Homecoming

2009-03-22T00:35:00.007-04:00

For those who do not know, I was in Miss Indiana this past year, placing 2nd Runner Up to Katie Stam, who went on to become Miss America!! I was in Las Vegas to first-hand witness Katie's amazing journey of achieving her childhood dream of becoming Miss America. The week was one of the most inspiring and motivating weeks I have ever had!

March 5, I flew back to Indianapolis for Katie's Homecoming and the crowning of the new Miss Indiana. Talk about a fantastic weekend! I began by photographing Katie for Indianapolis Monthly Magazine on Thursday and picking up Miss California, Jackie Geist at the airport. Friday, I visited my college campus & favorite, irreplaceable hairstylist Bryce before picking up Leigh-Taylor Smith, Miss NY to head to the Homecoming rehearsals and show. I am loving getting to know this girl better - what an amazing [& absolutely hysterical] person! We arrived and were greeted by 10 other Miss America contestants and the rest of the Top 5 from Miss Indiana. Tech rehearsals, visiting with the girls, photos, and of course, FOOD.

For the program, it began with the video of Mario Lopez announcing that incredible moment...."Miss America 2009 is..... Miss Indiana, Katie Stam!!!" The moment was recreated as Katie rose from below the stage in her beautiful white evening gown, an arm full of roses and of course, the Miss America crown! She performed followed by performances by MAOT Taylor Fitch, MIOT Megan Thwaites and the Top 5 of Miss Indiana, during which I performed "Wonderful" -- in front of the Miss America girls. Quick change into evening gowns and the Top 5 as well as all the former Miss Indiana's stood on stage to witness the crowning of the new Miss Indiana, Megan Meadors. Megan, a very close friend, is the most deserving person of this title and job! SHE will be a Miss Indiana to remember!! People may look at Ashley, Katie, myself and Nicole and think we're nuts for passing up the crown, but it could not be more perfect. Katie performed with the princesses and then the Miss America contestants spoke and performed (IL, OK, UT, KY, AR, MI, TN, CA, FL, NY, IA) All are incredible, beautiful and talented women and it was SUCH a pleasure to get to know them a bit!

Performing in that company reminded me of my goal: to be Miss America. Having been a part of Katie's journey since the beginning of her involvement in MAO has made this goal attainable. The weekend made me so proud of the Miss Indiana Organization! Congratulations and Thank You to all who made the weekend possible!

After dinner with the "Pageant Posse" and hotel-hang-out time with the MA girls, I headed home at 2:00 AM only to leave at 5:15 AM for the airport on Saturday to return to my NY Sweeper interview. Let's just say - it was a difficult flight experience. The short of it - obviously with that kind of sleep, I didn't shower in the morning - which eventually found itself to be a mistake since my flight was delayed twice and then cancelled - got a new flight but I ended up getting ready (recurling my hair and redoing my makeup) at the airport, changing into my interview outfit and tennis shoes only to find my luggage didn't make it to NY, so I just ran straight to my Miss Manhattan/Metropolitan/GG interview, arriving with 5 1/2 min to spare in the last girl's interview!!! If I've learned anything in Miss America, it's BE PREPARED and BE FLEXIBLE!! I soared through the day and the weekend on the adrenaline from the Miss America Homecoming and the encouragement of all of the Miss America Contestants, especially my good friend, Katie Stam. A weekend to remember!!

LOTS OF PHOTOS!! [click the X to see the entire album]

:) CLAIRE

2009 New York Local Competitions

2009-03-21T22:58:00.005-04:00

February 22, 2009: Miss Brooklyn

This was the first NY local that I attended, and I was so excited! I went to the pageant with Katie Martin [duh.] to watch my newly added Facebook friend, Keelie Sheridan. Here, I also met '08 Top 10-er Melanie Hildebrandt, caught up with Leigh-Taylor and was able to truly meet Erin Kennedy, the new Miss NY Executive Director as well as LaToya Evans, Director of PR. Miss NY OT Alexandra Mazzucchelli is an absolute delight and extremely talented! After a wonderful pageant of both Miss and Teen contestants, Keelie Sheridan was named Miss Brooklyn 2009 and Melanie Gowrie is Miss Brooklyn's OT! Congratulations girls!

March 1, 2009: Miss Westchester County . Miss Hudson Valley . Miss Suffolk County

Congratulations to Alyse Zwick, Miss Westchester County! Katie Martin, Miss Hudson Valley! And Marina Montes, Miss Suffolk County! This was a fantastic weekend. I really got to know some of the girls better and met even more new friends! It had been a while since I competed, so it was wonderful to get back on stage and get geared up for this "pageant season." Congratulations to the 3 winners and good luck in your preparation for Miss NY - I know we'll be seeing lots of each other :)

March 8, 2009: Miss Manhattan . Miss Metropolitan . Miss Greater Gotham

I had already interviewed for this pageant, the NY Sweeper, but turns out I didn't get to compete in it! Miss Jubilee ends - clear the auditorium [take lots of pics and eat something] then it's on to pageant #2 for the day! haha As my first "appearance," I guess you could say, as Miss Jubilee, I was able to crown these next 3 [very tall] women! Congratulations to Amanda Mason, Miss Metropolitan! Inga Schlingmann, Miss Manhattan! and Danielle Roundtree, Miss Greater Gotham! I admire your stamina, Danielle and Amanda!

PHOTOS HERE

MISS JUBILEE 2009

2009-03-12T17:02:00.008-04:00

Miss Jubilee 2009 is . . . Claire Buffie! Yay!!

OK, so let's take a step back.

Back in January, there was a workshop held for Miss Jubilee. This was the first time I was able to really meet the NY girls, and it was fantastic! Theresa Tokarowski, Miss Jubilee 2008, set the bar high for all of us who were planning to compete in Miss Jubilee! I have to highlight that this was the first day I met Katie Martin, who I now either speak to or see....umm everyday. Beyond the goal of becoming Miss New York and on to Miss America, one of the major reasons I wanted to compete in NY was to establish that community of people and begin building friendships with the impressive women of the Miss America Organization. When you meet someone in this Organization, you know that you are investing in a fantastic, intelligent, goal-oriented, strong woman - the kind of people with whom I want to surround myself. My closest friends [in life] have actually come from MAO, so I could not have been more thankful for or influenced by my involvement in this organization.

So the weekend of Miss Jubilee was finally here! It also happened to be the weekend of two other big events - the NY Sweeper immediately following, and the Miss America Homecoming just one day before. (More on that in the Miss America post...) After an adventure all in its own, just getting to the Miss Manhattan/Metropolitan/Greater Gotham interview, I came home from the MA Homecoming to reorganize and get ready for the big day on Sunday. With the enthusiasm and motivation from the homecoming weekend, I was all warmed-up and energized for my Miss Jubilee interview on Sunday morning. A fantastic, well-rounded and very prepared set of five judges gave me an opportunity to talk about my platform "Straight for Equality: Promoting Acceptance Through Dialogue" and its relevance to today's youth as well as my genuine passion for this Organization. Interview is my favorite part of the competition, and this particular interview ranks high on my list of favorites!

Miss Jubilee was probably the most organized and efficient pageant I have seen or been in. No frills, we came right out to start things off in swimsuit. All that work at my gym, Synergy, is paying off! Talent - contemporary lyrical dance to "Wonderful" by Annie Lennox - was great! I just LOVE that song!! We'll see if I can find anything better for Miss NY. Evening gown, now I was excited for this one. Not only did the Miss America girls help me pick out my gown at the homecoming, I knew that when I turned around in this backless dress, I had a surprise! Yipee! (Thank you, JJ/Lindsey Roscoe!) On-stage question might have been one of my most favorite moments on stage. The judge looked me right in the eye and said "Religion and the Bible ... and this whole issue of human rights-- how do you talk about the two?" THIS was my moment to shine. People, you can be a Christian and support gay rights. I'm living proof that the two can coexist, and this is an important part of my message. As I shared in my answer, if you want to go to the Bible for advice on how to live and strive towards equality, take Romans 12:18 into consideration, "If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone." I rest my case. At this point, I had completed each aspect of competition, and I felt as though I had done my absolute personal best - all I can ask for!

What a crowning moment :) So, I'm 5' 9" + 4" heels = 6' 1" Theresa is 5' tall. I'm sure you can picture and understand how there was a bit of difficulty in this experience!! But after being crowned a total of 3 times, we were all set, and I could not have been more excited!! Thank you for ALL of the "Congratulations" and "Good Luck" messages via every form of communication :) Keep the good vibes coming!! Onward and upward, here we come Miss New York!!

Although my camera was broken, my mom took some pics! See them and more, HERE!

Visit this blog often to keep track of my journey towards my goal in June!

:) CLAIRE